ok a very close friend of mine is in a dilemma these days …she is happily married and living with her her hubby and his parents in pak. both hubby and wife have stable jobs, no kids as yet. guy has 2 sisters, both married, one in another city in pakistan, the other in dubai. the hubby all of a sudden wants to migrate to canada, purely out of fear of what will happen to pakistan ten years down the line? he is worried, and says he wants to have the option to leave if required / if there is civil war / if he gets unemployed, etc. the wife is an ONLY CHILD. her parents do not have any brothers or sisters left; no close relatives either. she is not in favor of immigration for the obvious reason that she doesnt want to leave her parents here. she specifically refused all rishtas that came from abroad for the same reason. not that she clarified before marriage to this guy that she wud never immigrate, but then the topic never came up; and he never ever showed any interest in migrating.
she is truly stuck between a rock and a hard place. her hubby initially said, i understand, they’re ur parents and therefore my parents, and just like we wont leave my parents here, we wont leave urs either, and so we wont migrate. however, he is now intent upon going abroad, saying, if we are canadian citizens, and we get laid off, at least we will get unemployment benefits, and of course we will get benefits for every kid born.
she just cannot figure out how to make him understand that just as he cannot bear to leave his parents behind - if, for instance, the canadian govt rejects his parents visa/immigration, they will come back and not live in canada, - similarly her parents hold equal importance for her. it is not so much that she is dependent on her parents, as the fact that she feels that, being an only child, she has to be there for her parents in their old age.
im at a loss as to what to suggest to her…but i do feel that parents take precedence in such situations…but how to convince the husband?
