So my husband started a new job from last october. Its kind of a bpo where there are mostly very young colleagues. He told me that he didnt tell them about our daughter since they ll alienate him and treat him as uncle. In January i found he has another fb which he hid from me when confronted he admitted that he had but hardly used it. And it has nothing to do with any girl.. and said sorry he wont repeat again.
I obtained the password of that id and he doesnt seem to b involved with anyone, but there is one girl Hindu who is too free. Which she seemingly is with everyone. Both wished each other on valentines day and she said him all the heart filled smileys to which he also with replied the same. I took screen shots of all of that. When i confronted him he accepted and said hes very sorry about it and cried that he doesnt want anyone else apart from me and daughter and he has always been in his limits
Btw in this conversation he confessed that he didnt disclose his marriage there since it was a temporary job and has been thinking of doing it for long since he got permanent thr.
I was very hurt becoz he ruined the friendship we had. I dunno who to say this to. What do u guys say should i forgive him or not?
I told him i m nt coming back to his house abd he can live like a bachelor as he wishes to. He was like ni please give me one chance i m repenting on my lies n will nt do again and he never had or will have anyone in his life.
I dunno if i should believe him or not. Or if i do what condition s i should keep?
That girl took 1 month leave for a wedding and said in the office that she was hospitalised. She told my husband the same in theirchat which i saved and told him i m gonna send tht to the manager. So he s like his name also will b involved plz dont do it. If i want he ll never talk to her or leave that job even but dont tarnish his image thr.
There are many reasons why he could be doing this:
He is insecure about who he is and doesn't think people will like him enough if he disclosed his marriage and his daughter. He has created a false image of himself which he wants to maintain. If this is the case, he needs to come clean and change workplace and make a clean and honest start.
He is unhappy with you. You need to find out why and work on it with him.
He is bored and looking for way to make his life exciting. Ask him if he is just bored!
He is a pathological liar and can't help himself. Do you catch him lying often?
If he really did hide his marital status in order to secure the job... i can understand, but kind of a screw up since he has to reveal it eventually. As for the chat... idk... but i feel as if ur over-reacting. If she's his colleague, he has never had an inappropriate convo... that should be the end of it. Just keep it serious and simple and tell him - don't do it, tell ur office the truth. End of story. I don't think this is an issue to leave ur husband over...unless he's always kept u hidden from everyone he ever knows, and treats u and ur child like crap. This just requires mature communication.
No never.. he was always very honest righteous and upfront. he says that nothing is wrong with me and admits it just HIS mistake and i am the best wife and doesnt want to lose me.
You left the house? and how will that help solving the problem? Are you even interested in solving the issue?
If you think that your guy had a clean history and he actually did what he did in a heat of moment and is really sorry, there is no harm in giving him a second chance. You have a daughter, there is too much at stake to cut ties on first offence.
Also, how is your relationship otherwise? Are (or were) u guys keeping it warm? I know that husbands/wives sometimes wander around coz they miss the excitement in the relationship for whatever reason specially after having kids.
I was at my mums place only when i came to know that. He came to see us its then i dropped the bomb. No actually i was the one who actively tries to keep the spark alive. He s just too laid back
If he offered to change his job, ask him to do it. Surrounded by those youngsters at work, he is probably trying to 'fit' in by doing all these things. Hiding you and his daughter from them is pathetic and immature. How is your friends circle and social life? Maybe spending time with people you both know will help ground him.
So my husband started a new job from last october. Its kind of a bpo where there are mostly very young colleagues. He told me that he didnt tell them about our daughter since they ll alienate him and treat him as uncle. In January i found he has another fb which he hid from me when confronted he admitted that he had but hardly used it. And it has nothing to do with any girl.. and said sorry he wont repeat again.
I obtained the password of that id and he doesnt seem to b involved with anyone, but there is one girl Hindu who is too free. Which she seemingly is with everyone. Both wished each other on valentines day and she said him all the heart filled smileys to which he also with replied the same. I took screen shots of all of that. When i confronted him he accepted and said hes very sorry about it and cried that he doesnt want anyone else apart from me and daughter and he has always been in his limits
Btw in this conversation he confessed that he didnt disclose his marriage there since it was a temporary job and has been thinking of doing it for long since he got permanent thr.
I was very hurt becoz he ruined the friendship we had. I dunno who to say this to. What do u guys say should i forgive him or not?
I told him i m nt coming back to his house abd he can live like a bachelor as he wishes to. He was like ni please give me one chance i m repenting on my lies n will nt do again and he never had or will have anyone in his life.
I dunno if i should believe him or not. Or if i do what condition s i should keep?
after being on GS for 25 years, and hearing term desi million times in those 25 years.. finally this post made me understand what is a desi...
That girl took 1 month leave for a wedding and said in the office that she was hospitalised. She told my husband the same in theirchat which i saved and told him i m gonna send tht to the manager. So he s like his name also will b involved plz dont do it. If i want he ll never talk to her or leave that job even but dont tarnish his image thr.
I'm actually appalled at this, seriously.
Why would you try to ruin someone's job/career/professional reputation because she talked to your husband?
Leave her alone......from her POV, she was being friendly with a COLLEAGUE. She didn't lie to your boss to spend time with your husband. It's none of your business why she lied to her boss, it has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
The wrong one here is your husband. don't be THAT woman who takes her anger out on other women when the blame lies in the husband, and tbh he doesn't sound like a horrible person. He made a mistake but seeing as how horrible most men in Life1 can be, just let it go and for the love of Allah, leave that poor girl alone bc she didn't do anything to YOU.
Why would you try to ruin someone's job/career/professional reputation because she talked to your husband?
Leave her alone......from her POV, she was being friendly with a COLLEAGUE. She didn't lie to your boss to spend time with your husband. It's none of your business why she lied to her boss, it has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU
I could not agree more. I really don't see what this girl has done wrong, and it will more than likely ruin not only her career and professional reputation, but your husbands as well. The fault here is entirely with your husband in terms of him not disclosing his marriage, but you both sound very immature.
May I ask about your backgrounds? Is there a difference in your levels of education or upbringing? It sounds as though he's trying to compensate for some sort of sense of insecurity and trying very hard to fit into a young office environment.
Lol he is 29 and i am 28.. we went to the same school and have been friends from a long time, i actually just wanted to show him how far i can go.that was it. I had no intention of harming anyones career. I know thats immature but i just wanted to everyone who trusted him to b hurt like me. Sounds so childish but it was just that
