Husband leaves his wife at home with his parents and works in another country/city etc and visits once in a while.
What could be the reasons for this?
Would you like being in such a situation?
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The reason I have heard people use are well they do it for the job. They have a good job in a foreign country that requires them to work...what I do NOT get is why can the person NOT bring his wife/kids to live with him? I would not want to live in such a situation.
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Its usually work...
I would NOT want to be in that predicament because I would like to enjoy my life with my partner...not sit and wait for him to come home once a year.
Exactly …Why don;t they take family with them wherever they work.
No point of the money sent if you dont live with your husband.
Exactly my thoughts
But why do girls agree to it?
I know someone (not desi) who is currently working as the head of one of the labs within a pharma company... he would've been crazy to refuse this job offer... Since this country is so small anyway, ur bound to end up moving some place other than your hometown when ur looking for employment... so yeah his family lives in a different city and he visits them every weekend... thats just the way it is for him and his family is completely understanding...
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why didn't he take his family with him?
Maybe it would be a lot more expensive to keep their whole family where they're working. If they stay there by themselves, they could live with simpler arrangements and have more money to send home.
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A little lesser money and the family being together would be a better option wouldn't it?
Well, sometimes it's a temporary arrangement. I would personally prefer my family to be with me, but if it's a short term thing, then I would also try to live with the minimum expense and save money to send home.
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Sometimes it is not that easy to take family along...esp when wife may have a job, or the children are a little bit older and settled in school and it would be hard for them to be uprooted, transfer etc...i don't think its a big deal, if the couple is okay with the arrangement, who are others to complain...
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Another one of LPs suspicious thread :p
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you can't have sex - i mean who wanna wait for a year ? Think !
If its for a month or 2 then its ok but a year or 2 .No way !!!
What if the wife is not okay with it?
wht’s suspicious about it FBI:emmy:
why didn't he take his family with him?
life isn't so simple.
His kids were in schools n colleges in that city and they simply couldn't move at this point in their education.
His wife had a decent job there and she's still working there, while he works in a different city and the entire family gets together on the weekends which is usually the case in most households even if everyone lives under the same roof...
EDIT: oops... just read Sara's post.. she hit the bull's eye...
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just 2 lines .....
aur bhe gham hain zamanay main muhabbat kay siwa
rahatain aur bhe hain wasal ki raahat kay siwa
A little lesser money and the family being together would be a better option wouldn't it?
no !!
money is never enough for any one any one who ever say I have enough money now I will stop advancing
i, He should go for tabligh for 1 year great thought....
ii, He is lazy Bas***d not ambitious enough
Make money Muslims should be strong by knowledge or by money to support family friends relatives who ever..
family is a very important part of life but as I said
aur bhe gham hain zamanay main
make sure you have enough money to send ur kid to private school (if you can ) living together is great but If ur kid goes to top class school without u being there is better then kid going to public school with u around
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^ How is someone who is content with life a lazy bas***d as you so nicely put it? Not everyone's life involves such greed.
So not having a father around but putting your kid through private school is much more important than having a father around and attending a public school? What planet do you live on? In my opinion, if the father can be around for the child's upbringing and he is a good father than this will benefit a child far more than a private education. I know people (myself included) who have gone to 'public schools' as you put it who have gone on to achieve big things in life (doctors, lawyers, nurses, architects etc.) so please don't post such narrow minded tripe.
^ How is someone who is content with life a lazy bas***d as you so nicely put it? Not everyone's life involves such greed.
So not having a father around but putting your kid through private school is much more important than having a father around and attending a public school? What planet do you live on? In my opinion, if the father can be around for the child's upbringing and he is a good father than this will benefit a child far more than a private education. I know people (myself included) who have gone to 'public schools' as you put it who have gone on to achieve big things in life (doctors, lawyers, nurses, architects etc.) so please don't post such narrow minded tripe.
buddy
I agree with you If you send your kid to public He/she can become doctor lawyer nurse etc.
I am talking about people who control doctors & lawyers etc. you need not only private education but also a Label
Little Princess, You are describing the situation as if the husband is happy to leave behind his wife and kids and go to another country for work.
It's done out of majboori and most of the times its the husband who suffers the most ( becoz wife finds alternatives in his absence ;) )
But seriously, all of them suffer equally.
A family near to me is also in such a situation. The husband tried his best to keep them with him, but it was difficult for a young woman and a kid to stay alone all day. So the husband had to send them back to his house.
The worst sufferer in this family is the baby, who sometimes cries if he misses his dad. But there is nothing they can do.
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ok this thread remind me one of my releative. she got married 11 years before . after wedding, husband stayed for 1 month and went back to usa..came back after 5 years, stayed for 2 months and then went back again to usa..he last went to his wife 3 years before...
sometimes i feel bad for her...i mean she had spend her 11 years married life alone in pakistan with in laws...i wonder why he doesnt bring his wife to usa....i dont understand why he got married if he didnt want to briing his wife to usa.....and yea his wife lives with her in laws