husband interested in wife's sister

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Husband is interested in wife’s sister and whenever he see her he gets that flirty smile on face. The family of his wife hates him for this and even the wife’s sister.
What opinion and advise do you have for this girl?
What should she do?

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Seriously? If the feeling isn't mutual and isn't fuelled by the sister (and I am aware of families where 'stuff' has happened between a BIL and SIL and it turned NASTY) the sister needs to avoid him at all costs.

The wife needs to address her husbands behaviour on a one-to-one. If he denies it and claims hes just a friendly soul she needs to 'encourage' his friendly nature to do one; jog on as us Brits would say.

Was this behaviour not detected before the sister married this creepy dude? Or did the SIL suddenly become the object of his affection?

What's his relationship like with his wife?

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husband interested in wife's sister

Sister didnt realised this creepy person nature before. And wife sister completely avoid sister husband.
Wife is never satisfied physically with her husband. Huaband is a complete jerk.

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That was pretty clear after reading your original post.

I agree with Princess: In a situation like this the sisters should only meet each other when the husband is not present. I don't think a one-to-one will change his behaviour. There is a 99% chance that he will deny it anyway.

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gross. wouldn’t it be funny if he started coming onto her and she turned around and made a big deal about how she is NOT into him in anyway and how he should just leave here ALONE, in front of everyone? usko sharminda karo!!! besharam!!! :snooty:

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Other than the "flirty smile"....what else has he done that shows that he's interested in the wife's sister? Has he actually said this to his wife or anyone else?

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If he's just giving the evil flirty smile I think (and this depends on now much sharam the man has!) if he becomes aware of the fact his wife has noticed he may simply switch off the unacceptable flirty smile.

Is this going to create a problem between the girls family and the son-in-law? If you think this will be the case I seriously think the bahaviour needs to be addressed. She (the wifey) needs to speak up.

Is the wife isn't satisfied with her husband let's hope this isn't causing his wondering flirty eye as a way of bigging himself up. Just a thought.

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husband interested in wife's sister

He acts completely different to her like being caring towards her and always speaking good anout her etc.
everyone in her family relatives friends can clearly understand his behaviour towards her.

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Sorry I am confused OP. Post #8-is this how he is with wife or SIL?

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husband interested in wife's sister

With sil.

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husband interested in wife's sister

Wife had made husband reslised this and he had got fine.
He has recently started being a jerk again or maybe the wife didnt realised because she was busy with her pregnancy and new born.

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So he smiles at the SIL in a "flirty" way, is extra caring towards her, and is always prasining her......that's it? He hasn't made any sexual advances or hasn't actually said anything directly about being attracted to the SIL has he?

How often does he see the SIL (I assume he only sees the SIL during family dawats/events)?

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flarty smiling to paheli :o

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either the wife needs to have an open conversation on the inappropriateness of his attention/praise/behaviour with her husband and put a stop to it all or her family should stop interacting socially with the son-in-law until things normalize.

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Okay I'm shooting in the dark here but as another poster has mentioned apart from the flirty smiles nothing else has been said or done?

Out of curiousity what is classed as a flirty smile? Are his smiles really that flirty? Or is it a case of being seen that way?

What has the SIL said about the situ?

Also you mentioned the womans family are aware of the flirty smiles and are not well happy with the situ. Did their married daughter bring his behaviour to their attention or was it really that obvious?

Now seriously step away from the situ and consider the following:

is the husband really only friendly towards just SIL?

Is she married?

Is the wife over imagining the situ? I don't mean to sound like I'm on the fellas side but as someone who is currently pregnant (and I also have a toddler) pregnancy and becoming a parent can sometimes make you see things slightly differently. If someone is suffering even from a bit of PND small things can become BIG issues.

The guy maybe a jerk towards his Mrs (what is he doing exactly?) however his intentions are not really clear as I'm actually confused.

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Cheap.

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husband interested in wife's sister

The guys behavior is so clear that the family spoke to the daughter and she was so ashamed of it that its just not her thoughts or way of seeing.
The wife sister is not married.
The guy nature to everyone else in the family and towards the sil is completely different.

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If that's the case the wife must talk to her husband and put a stop to the situ before her family stop seeing her.

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Don't let pretty girls stay around him.

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Whats up with some people now days?. Eyeing his wife's sister. And well..this is not first time i am hearing this..but don't know what else to say.