Re: husband has no interest in going out with wife.
Respected Nadz, u know, he might be having his work tensions on his head...or may be some business stuff that might keep him from going out with you. I agree that its a big mistake most men do but its not that they do it on purpose or they intentionally do it. I was reading a book of a big religious scholar where in he replied to a man's question that his wife does not even like to c him around her. And the scholar replied that you yourself are responsible for it.
I think, you should know his weaknesses like what makes him happy or what turns him on and tell him to do stuff when he is charged. Literally that can help. He called u jaan this means he loves u and likes u and knows that u are his jaan...this is a big word and you should feel happy about it.
A cousin of mine used to do the same with his wife and his father once slapped him hard for not taking his wife to his in laws and shopping at Eid. Since that day I saw a big change in him. Might u be friends with his mom and make her tell him that its necessary.
Just yesterday a very close office friend told me that his mother told her wife that you wana go shopping, plan wid me. Ur husband is a dumb idiot in this regard and merely reminding him each day would end u up with some old cloths at eid.
So its in most men nature but its a big mistake they do unintentionally.
And i wud request, no fight on this issue please. he calls u jaan ... he loves u.
guys, stop telling me how difficult it ISNT....every family is different, yes there are liberal people here in pesh, but my family, as educated and all it is, still are backwards in coming forwards in many things. I KNOW how difficult it is for ME, so dont assume it isnt.
secondly husband doesnt say he DOESNT WANT to , he just has a whats the big deal face all the time and doesnt think going out is a big deal. he doesnt understand and never has couply things, couple time etc, luckily i made some friends here and one of them has a husband similar to mine who isnt romantic, at all. and doesnt see the big deal in it. anyway so yesterday we had a fight, he says if you wana go out tell me, just tell me in the morning before i go wrk.
see, that pissed me off cos if his mate said yeh lets go out right NOW, he most likely may go. but he needs to plan in advance to go with his WIFE.
grrrrrr.
