Re: husband has no interest in going out with wife.
THANK YOU.
we spent alot of time together when we lived alone. and then we moved in with my parents and now his parents, and it seems as if living in a joint family doesnt suit him. he feels bad for gonig out alone with wife and kids. weird freak, but he grew up seeing his dad doing same i guess. i thought my husband was the only one, but i made a friend here, who coincidentally has a similar husband and he doesnt want to go anywhere without his mum.lol. thing for her is though, that she loves her MIL, her MIL is genunely nice. so there goes that.
husband has good qualtieis. he is lovely really. BUT a theres a big BUT, hes stubborn, he doesnt do arguments/debates/other peoples opinions very well. if you criticise hiom or even talk to him about his flaws/or ask him to improve, it gets his back up and he gets all acha chup karo abi i dnt wana hear anymore` crap.
so anyay usually i would also sulk for days in the end i deicided, to call him and tell him hes taking me today. and he said ok teek hai il be there.
so is it better for me to be dheedt ( whatever that word is in english), AND MAKE him do his farz, or just ignore him and take BIL instead. i prefer making husband go. im sure there are husbands who make their wives do stuff. so about time i made him do stuff.