Re: Husband and his laziness
Thank you all for your posts!!
My husband is very lazy.....No my parents didn't know about his laziness......b4 coming here he said several times to me that he don't want me to work...he will work day and night to pay everything....now he denied every single thing...
I will start doing a job...two days a week.....only to show that I'm compromising...and that I'm helping him...Now I want to see if he will increase his working hours.....
khair, i just want to say that instead of montly why not try weekly, like he should gve u x amount per week for ghar ka samaan n y amount is set aside for bills, n watever is left u can both spend on urslves or send back home ONLY if ur household expenses have been met
my BIL lives in Gran Canaria n he earns twice as much as my hsbnd dsnt pay any rent n most of the time his food is paid fr by his employers too, he has 2 kids n a wife who r in pak, despite them being his responsibility, my hubby stills sends them money, i dnt have a problem with that, why because hes taking care of us n saving for our 2 children n paying our rent as well as bills, althoough it does make me wonder y they need financial help when she has a working husband earning more euros than our pounds, i even asked hubs that n he said i just send it as a gift, i mea he only sends around 200 every other month, nt bad
so i advise u to sit him down n talk things thru like get a pen n paper n write ur expenses, n then decide wats left to send back home. make it clear that its his responsibilty to cfulfill allur need even if it means playing the religious card, oh n please try n solve these issues urslf frst, involve parents as a final resort :)
i said the same thing :)
Sorry, I am butting in, but cannot resist. Its ur personal matter of course, but I am just very curious, so I excuze beforehand. Umm why is ur husband sending money to his SIL and brothers kid, when the brother is MA fine, earning and working? yeah I read the gift part, but I read the "every month" part too .. a gift every month???? when he himself is working SO HARD to earn those money??? Obviously the "extra" time he is working is taken away from his family?? So why is he doing it every month, I get the once in a while gifting, its all do-able, but every month? Does ur BIL send u a gift too then? ..
Re: Husband and his laziness
So he wants you to sell your house. Where will you live then? What will happen to the money from the sale of your house, presumably that will be used to send money gradually to his family in Pakistan? What happens when that money runs out?
Are you in the UK? Or any other country that offers certain benefits when you have children? Does he think that having children will provide this additional 'income'?
He works 3 hours a day and complains? I don't even know what to say to this. No offence to you but waste of space comes to mind. And he calls himself a man?
You need to put your foot down and show him that you won't stand for this if he plans to have a future with you. Especially his lies. His 3 hours a day earnings are not going to support his whole family in pakistan and you and any future children.
its every other month, but yeah he does it, oh n in regards to wat i got frm them, well lets see
2005 i had my first son wat did i get zilch ek kotta sika b nhi
2006 his frst budday again nuthing
2007 his 2nd budday oh n not forgetting his frst eids n watever in between again nuthing
2008 i went to pak n it was my eldests sons frst time meeting his dadyaal side of the family, he got 2 pairs of clothes
2009 my second son was born wat did we get, nuthing
its almost his frst budday n i dnt expect anything either
albeit wen its her kids birthdays hubs has to give 1k or more per bacha n on eids too (thts rupees)
just goes to show our generosity as to theirs
khair im not complaining, Alhamdollilah, i get wat i need wenever so i dnt
argue, its nt wrth it
we r IA going to apply fr his uindefinite leave next month n need every penny, but hes still sending money this month even tho his brother offered to send some, he said no i will, mens minds r too complicted to understand
he dsnt miind wrking 18 hrs in a row n sending his SIL the money then why shud i create a fuss n mke my life hell, hope tht mkes sense 
his brother on the other hnd is takin full advantage while it lasts a bit like hw pl tke advantage of the sale season 
, hes just spent 1000euros on a car theiry test course n is forking out another 2grnd for prctical lessons, oh n the rest he saves, but pak bhejne k waqt only 20-30, 000 rupee bhejthay hain
so far hes saved about 30,000 euros, n us 0
Re: Husband and his laziness
^OMG! Thats so not fair!! ...
They should at least be nice and gift the kids something ... :(
But yeah i can see where u are coming from .. Smart girl!
Re: Husband and his laziness
^ Allah ka karum hai, n hamesha dua yehi hai k humko unki kamayi khani na naseeb ho, i feel lucky that Allah has given us the chance to gve, He will reward us as He is The Almighty n All Knowing
they r the kind of ppl who dnt even knw how to do namak halal, but apna ghar barbaad kar k kya hasil, its going to mke them hppy but nuksaan mere bachoun ka he hoga