khair, i just want to say that instead of montly why not try weekly, like he should gve u x amount per week for ghar ka samaan n y amount is set aside for bills, n watever is left u can both spend on urslves or send back home ONLY if ur household expenses have been met
my BIL lives in Gran Canaria n he earns twice as much as my hsbnd dsnt pay any rent n most of the time his food is paid fr by his employers too, he has 2 kids n a wife who r in pak, despite them being his responsibility, my hubby stills sends them money, i dnt have a problem with that, why because hes taking care of us n saving for our 2 children n paying our rent as well as bills, althoough it does make me wonder y they need financial help when she has a working husband earning more euros than our pounds, i even asked hubs that n he said i just send it as a gift, i mea he only sends around 200 every other month, nt bad
so i advise u to sit him down n talk things thru like get a pen n paper n write ur expenses, n then decide wats left to send back home. make it clear that its his responsibilty to cfulfill allur need even if it means playing the religious card, oh n please try n solve these issues urslf frst, involve parents as a final resort :)
i said the same thing :)
Sorry, I am butting in, but cannot resist. Its ur personal matter of course, but I am just very curious, so I excuze beforehand. Umm why is ur husband sending money to his SIL and brothers kid, when the brother is MA fine, earning and working? yeah I read the gift part, but I read the "every month" part too .. a gift every month???? when he himself is working SO HARD to earn those money??? Obviously the "extra" time he is working is taken away from his family?? So why is he doing it every month, I get the once in a while gifting, its all do-able, but every month? Does ur BIL send u a gift too then? ..