Re: Husband and his laziness
Tough situation. Don't know if it's ever possible to reason with someone with the mentality your husband has. He is willing to give them everything and more and let you suffer for it.
This is actually quite typical of men that leave Pakistan to set up home in another country. Its easy for people to say 'oh yeh you should support your parents etc' but I've seen instances where grown men have been paying for their parents and adult siblings and practically taking it from their own childrens mouths.
There is nothing wrong in him supporting his parents, but if he can't even afford to maintain his own living then he really needs to evaluate how he can manage two households. He should look for another job rather than expect you to find a job. After all, if he is able to provide for his parents and adult siblings why can't he provide for his wife?
As for his brother (if he is healthy and capable) he needs to get off his backside and find a job to pay his own way and contribute to the household and lessen the burden on the older brother. What a scrounger.
Stand your ground. How is their lifestyle in pakistan? How much do they get by on right now and how much more would they need? Based on such questions and on what you can afford set a budget and follow it. Allocate a set amount that you can afford to send to his family each week/month and stick to it until your finances improve and you can re-evaluate the amount.