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Well, some of you might like to think of me as a monster to make them feel better. [EDITED]
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^ what is the point of stating all your "nakiyan".
it totally defeats the purpose of doing them
So i don’t get it… you’re saying you and your wife did everything you kept going on and on about that you’re against… 
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^ what is the point of stating all your "nakiyan".
it totally defeats the purpose of doing them
Plenty of people on this forum do that. Nothing new but I do have the same question as manno for icono. Why call those parents all these names when you and your wife have done exactly that?
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some of the women posting here are overly dramatic and emotional .. thats not the way u prove a point
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^ what is the point of stating all your "nakiyan".
it totally defeats the purpose of doing them
That is being too tough. Good for Iconoclastic - I am not half the human being he is.
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^ what is the point of stating all your "nakiyan".
it totally defeats the purpose of doing them
same purpose as khattichic..or D6C etc
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same purpose as khattichic..
Wow. Thanks Nomi.
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Wow. Thanks Nomi.
sounded same like your post.....
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^ out of 14 pages you chose to zero in on **one **post of mine, which was a quoted direct response to bebo's question on married couples giving preference to their own parents' needs vs their families. I was drawing on my own life experiences to show hat it **is **possible to fullfill your duties to your parents without compromising your own marriage, unlike Iconoclast who has changed his views/stance about a gazillion times in this thread, and is now doing damage control.
If you or anyone else sees that as "tooting my own horn" then so be it, you are definitely entitled to your opinion, and honestly it should come as no surprise to me. You haven't ever exactly "played nice" with me in the past, why start now?
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^ Not one post Khatti. Takalluf k taur per he added me in that list too :D
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^ what is the point of stating all your "nakiyan".
it totally defeats the purpose of doing them
He is just clearing his position. Sometimes you just have to. After being target on 10 previous pages, its ok for him to clarify using his own scenario....
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I didn't really want to post in this thread again bcoz of EOGs(easily offended guppans) but then once again some are beating the same drum again&again. And i did feel that it was being suggested that as if others are mean cold hearted people who will let their wives relative die and do nothing. I just wanted to tell u that one someone is in need ofcourse any human will do what is possible under his/her circumstances to help, whether they are one's relatives or not. However, i don't think its correct for parents to ask their daughters to contribute to household income if they can live well within their own means and i have posted examples where people do that.
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Your husband should be accepting of the fact that the income you make is yours. You are not islamically obliged to contribute financially. I'm sorry that this is an issue in your life. All the best...I hope your husband decides to overlook it.
My mom sometimes has this issue because when she worked she decided to send money to her poor siblings back home. My dad got upset and didn't appreciate it, but the ultimate idea that he is the bread-winner and not my mom helped him overcome the issue. Good luck. :)
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^ out of 14 pages you chose to zero in on **one **post of mine, which was a quoted direct response to bebo's question on married couples giving preference to their own parents' needs vs their families. I was drawing on my own life experiences to show hat it **is **possible to fullfill your duties to your parents without compromising your own marriage, unlike Iconoclast who has changed his views/stance about a gazillion times in this thread, and is now doing damage control.
If you or anyone else sees that as "tooting my own horn" then so be it, you are definitely entitled to your opinion, and honestly it should come as no surprise to me. You haven't ever exactly "played nice" with me in the past, why start now?
i added D6C name too.....because he shared example of his personal life.......so you, D6C and iconoclast.....all are nice people who treat others nicely.........whats so offensive about that?
i didn't say you were tooting your own horn...probably you think iconoclast is tooting and you don't want your name associated with iconoclast? is that it??
i don't exactly understand why you are getting so mad.........
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I’m not mad, I just got a little defensive, which I now see was unnecesary. My apologies, I took your post the wrong way. 
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^ out of 14 pages you chose to zero in on **one **post of mine, which was a quoted direct response to bebo's question on married couples giving preference to their own parents' needs vs their families. I was drawing on my own life experiences to show hat it **is **possible to fullfill your duties to your parents without compromising your own marriage, unlike Iconoclast who has changed his views/stance about a gazillion times in this thread, and is now doing damage control.
If you or anyone else sees that as "tooting my own horn" then so be it, you are definitely entitled to your opinion, and honestly it should come as no surprise to me. You haven't ever exactly "played nice" with me in the past, why start now?
iconoclast has never changed his stance in this whole thread .. its been the same .. ne hes not doing damage control hes showing that people who think like him are not the 'evil bad guys' that you and other women here are trying to portray them as .. at least hes not using sympathy emotional and feel sorry tactics as a way to win the argument ..
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Shall we laaack this thread now?
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Shall we laaack this thread now?
Good idea Passionfruit! Somebody haaalp!
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i hope you are not…but i am still sensing some pent up anger…may be i am wrong..
but i don’t get it how people here get so angry and attack other’s families and character just due to disagreement on some debate…and when people join in like its some holy activity…there is a difference between personal opinion and a debate…it is NOT OK to attack someone’s upbringing and values… its like…really sad that its getting to be a widely accepted practice here…
i just felt like saying that…let the “danda bardaar jaloos” come my way now 