Re: Huge fight with husband
The bolded bit sounds like something a woman would say. This is what dowry culture has done to our men, feminized them beyond recognition. Yay.
If you think you can’t change his mentality, you’re probably right. A manly man isn’t interested in how many gifts he’s received, let alone who paid for them. I don’t blame you for being turned off, he seems to have forgotten his gender role in all this drama. Being your cousin, it’s a reflection of his upbringing that he won’t even spare his aunt/uncle (your parents). This isn’t about him needing your financial contribution at home (which spells even bigger trouble), it’s a cultural reaction. It’s taboo for a daughter to support herself, support her sisters, or pull her parents financial weight. This is why many women - non-desis included - keep what they give to their parents discreet. You were honest with him, and now he’s throwing it in your face. This is how the world works.
Don’t play defense. He’s got you in the witness box and you’re obliging. It’s too late to throw a hissy fit now. If he wanted in-laws who’d buy him diamond studs, he should’ve married a sugar mama. Calmly ask him how much allowance he wants every month and tell him you’ll try your best to juggle his shopping needs with your other financial obligations.