Huge fight with husband

Reha · July 18, 2012, 4:08am

Re: Huge fight with husband

Shanzai, you should sit down with your husband and clarify matters:

Talk about how much you earn and how much money you are actually giving your parents. Maybe he is concerned that you prioritize your parents over your (and his) own financial needs? It may help to do a bit of financial planning together so that you are also setting aside some money (from both incomes) for the future.

2. Give him a clear picture of your parents’ financial condition. What are their sources of income, essential expenses etc.

At the back of all this, I get the feeling that your husband and your parents don’t share a very good bond. What can you do to improve relations between them? Try to analyze fairly if your parents give him enough respect and treat him well. It’s hard to resent someone when they’re nice to you.

You have every right (and duty) to help out your parents. But you should also assess in your own mind whether you are doing way too much for them (not saying you are, but doesn’t hurt to reassess). Also, you said that you have sisters - can they jump in and help so that all the responsibility isn’t on your shoulders?

LucyMay,

I agree with everything but the bold bit.