Huge fight with husband

[Captain_Obvious]

Re: Huge fight with husband

@Shanzai

This is my first thread here i believe. so a little background on me. i am the eldest daughter and have always financially helped my parents and took care of my sisters. i got married to my cousin and from the first day of marriage ’ this thing is stuck in his mind that my parents have took all my money and that i spend everything on them’ he believes that all the money spend on our marriage and the gifts given to him was my money and my parents didnt spend a penny on him. i work only part time after marriage and also in university . i have to pay my fees thats why i dont contribute much at home. he thinks that i am sending all the money to my parents. i am sick and tired of his behaviour
. this topic cause huge fights between both of us . he even tell his family that her parents did not spend a penny on me and all the gifts were bought with her money which is not the case but he doesnt believe me. i am so sick and tired of the same argument everyday. tell me was i wrong when i was not married , working . we are from a middle class family so wasnt i suppose to help my parents.. was i suppose to kepp all my money and let my parents suffer financially..i am just going crazy on this issue..there is alot of other details but i dont want to make people read a novel. Men please tell me if you have wives with similar backgrounds . do u give them ( tanay) of helping their parents financially. we have had plenty of conversations on this topic i just cannot change his mentality.

My philosophy on wife’s money is that it’s her money and she gets to do with it as she pleases. I have no say in it. I’m still responsible for providing for us and looking after her needs. So it wouldn’t even be an issue for us.