Huge fight with husband

Reha · July 23, 2012, 4:47am

Re: Huge fight with husband

What attracts you for a good conversation?

Yet again you are attributing a lie to me. Show me the post which even implies that mans parents deserve everything while womens parents don’t. Ofcourse there are many parents who demand things from their kids even when they have means to live well on their own.

** ****Those are usually the guys’ parents. Telling their son to provide for them even though he is married and has responsibilities towards his own family.

Life forum is FULL of threads where woman are complaining of this.

You’re right about one thing…the wife’s parents don’t usually ask their daughters for anything because of this.

That does not mean however that there is no sense of responsibility. **

There are a lot of people who feel that having raised the kids up, they deserve a payback. I am raising my kids, both sons and daughter, am i doing it bcoz i expect a payback, heck no. I would do everything for them even if i knew they won’t take care of me when i am old. Does that mean i don’t feel any obligation towards my parents, of course NO NO and NO. I would take care of them even if they had not raised, bcoz they are my family. I don’t know why would one consider raising kids or taking care of parents a trade.
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Again, that’s usually the guys’ parents. Jab rishta lekay kaheen jatay hein to apne betay ko show piece ki tarha dikhatay hein…dekhiye humara beta. Iski parhai mein humne kitna paisa kharch kiya hai…ab iski shaadi hogi to baray armaan hein humaray. (hint hint…poori batteesi on display)
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@Muzna, yes i do know its just a cultural norm for expecting the male members to take a lead in financially supporting their family. From where it comes i dunno. May be it comes from Islam which puts responsibility of finances of females on males. But thats what our cultural norm is, that is not to depend upon our daughters or sisters to provide for us.

The same goes to rest of my family. For the other guy, who feels his family won’t take care of him bcoz he has not raised them, well may thats how his family dynamics are. My brothers, uncles, cousins have not raised me but they can take from me whenever they need, i wont hesitate a moment to help them nor would they hesitate to help me.

Again, i have never said that needy parents should not be helped by their daughters or by their sons in law. What i have said is that we would not like to take help from women of our household for its upon men to provide for them and not the other way round.

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In an ideal world…everyone is self sufficient and no one needs anyone.

But that is not the case.

It would be awesome if you understood the plight and difficulties of other people and were at least sympathetic to their needs.
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