Huge fight with husband

Iconoclast · July 22, 2012, 11:06pm

Re: Huge fight with husband

**No, i am not.

Icono, as usual its the same argument. Man’s parents versus woman’s parents. A man’s parents deserve everything while a woman’s doesn’t. Its their fault they had daughters and not sons.

How awful of a life some women lead…without having any fault of their own. Insaniyat was never alive in Pakistanis. **

**Parents that are well off NEVER demand anything from their children…I don’t even know where that sentence fits in or how it makes sense. It will ONLY be parents that might not be as strong financially that might expect their children to look after them in old age. And every single post of yours has been in opposition of helping elderly parents up until now.
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Your examples are not examples…they are exceptions.

I have seen men beat their wives, leave their children up for grabs and never find out if they’re alive or dead.

Does that mean all men are like that? Does that mean even you are like that?

No.
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Yet again you are attributing a lie to me. Show me the post which even implies that mans parents deserve everything while womens parents don’t. Ofcourse there are many parents who demand things from their kids even when they have means to live well on their own.

There are a lot of people who feel that having raised the kids up, they deserve a payback. I am raising my kids, both sons and daughter, am i doing it bcoz i expect a payback, heck no. I would do everything for them even if i knew they won’t take care of me when i am old. Does that mean i don’t feel any obligation towards my parents, of course NO NO and NO. I would take care of them even if they had not raised, bcoz they are my family. I don’t know why would one consider raising kids or taking care of parents a trade.

@Muzna, yes i do know its just a cultural norm for expecting the male members to take a lead in financially supporting their family. From where it comes i dunno. May be it comes from Islam which puts responsibility of finances of females on males. But thats what our cultural norm is, that is not to depend upon our daughters or sisters to provide for us.

The same goes to rest of my family. For the other guy, who feels his family won’t take care of him bcoz he has not raised them, well may thats how his family dynamics are. My brothers, uncles, cousins have not raised me but they can take from me whenever they need, i wont hesitate a moment to help them nor would they hesitate to help me.

Again, i have never said that needy parents should not be helped by their daughters or by their sons in law. What i have said is that we would not like to take help from women of our household for its upon men to provide for them and not the other way round.