Huge fight with husband

Reha · July 22, 2012, 8:33pm

Re: Huge fight with husband

You are twisting my words to suit ur argument. I never said that i would not like my wife to help her parents if they are in need. I only said that my FIL will not like to accept financial support from his daughter.
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No, i am not.

Icono, as usual its the same argument. Man’s parents versus woman’s parents. A man’s parents deserve everything while a woman’s doesn’t. Its their fault they had daughters and not sons.

How awful of a life some women lead…without having any fault of their own. Insaniyat was never alive in Pakistanis. **

Ofcourse, if someone is in need, its our duty to help them, even if they are not our relatives. And relatives have preference over other people to get our money in time of need. Personally i spend all the amount that i have for charitable purposes on my relatives(near, far, related to in laws) first and if i still have something left i will give it to any organisation bcoz i strongly feel that its one’s duty to relatives comes first before spending on anyone else.

Secondly, according to Islam, its not a duty of any child male or female to give money to their parents if they are well off.
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Parents that are well off NEVER demand anything from their children…I don’t even know where that sentence fits in or how it makes sense. It will ONLY be parents that might not be as strong financially that might expect their children to look after them in old age. And every single post of yours has been in opposition of helping elderly parents up until now. **

However, what i did say is that if parents have means to live on their own, they shud not depend upon married daughter to contribute to household income.

Theer are many women who will send money to their parents for un necessary things when they own households need it more. Like sending money to father to pay for instalments for plot or a new house when they themselves don’t have one of their own. Or sending money so that they can do a lavish wedding reception etc.

I think its a shame for parents to accept money from their married daughters for such purposes. And i have seen many who do that.

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Your examples are not examples…they are exceptions.

I have seen men beat their wives, leave their children up for grabs and never find out if they’re alive or dead.

Does that mean all men are like that? Does that mean even you are like that?

No.
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