bebo
July 22, 2012, 5:20pm
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Re: Huge fight with husband
I’m not sure how this is in any way relevant to this thread. Do you know any man or woman who financially supports parents DESPITE the parents not actually needing it? Personally, I don’t. If my parents didn’t have a need for outside financial assistance, then why would I waste my time/energy worrying about it?
Having a brother doesn’t somehow exempt me from making sure that my parents NEEDS are met. If I had a brother who insisted on taking 100% financial responsiblity for my parents and could do so while still taking care of his own family (ie. wife/kids), then by all means I’d let him. If he couldn’t do it 100%, then I’d allow him to do whatever he felt he could do, and do the rest myself. Or if my brother was a jerk who just chose to not help, then I’d step in and do it.
But I wouldn’t have an “expectation” that my brother bear 100% of the financial burden just b/c he’s a man. Whether its a daughter or son, both share equal responsibility to take care of their parents.
Again, this is no different than what a man would feel. My in-laws are wealthy and will never need any money from anyone. My husband and his brother do not support them in any way OR even worry about it…b/c they know for a fact that financially, their parents have more than enough. I don’t know any man who feels any financial responsiblity towards his parents IF he knows for a fact that his parents do not need any financial assistance. This shouldn’t be any different for women. This feeling of financial responsiblity comes from the knowledge that the parents actually need outside help to meet their needs.
Yes I do know men who contribute to the household knowing that their parents really don’t need money. They feel that parents have this right over them just like their wives and kids have this right.