Re: Huge fight with husband
I’m curious how far you’d go to practice this belief:
Would you prevent your wife from accepting money from your married daughter even if there was a need for it?
If your wife needed a life saving surgery and you didn’t have the money but your married daughter did, would you still refuse the money knowing your wife would die without it?
Let’s say its a situation where God forbid you needed money for basic necessities like rent, electricity etc…would you rather your wife be homeless with you than to accept that help? OR would you move out of the house if your wife accepted the money to pay rent?
Since you’d CHOOSE death over accepting money from your daughter…in that decision, would you care at all about the pain/heartache your wife would feell? Heck would you care at all about the pain your daughter would feel at losing her father?
I’m sorry but this is such a selfish view. In this scenario, it seems like its all about you (ie. the “man”). The feelings and needs of the wife, or the daughter are completely ignored. Heck if you have sons who for whatever reason are not capable of helping you, then you’re also ignoring their feelings/needs too.
My nana died when my mom was in 8th grade, and I know 'til this day (she’s in her 60’s), she misses him. Even as a married woman, having my father there for me to provide emotional support, encouragement means a lot to me. Someday when I have children, I can’t wait for them to get to know my father. If he were to die for some reason, it would always leave a hole in my life. And YET…hearing you talk like that from a father’s perspective…it really saddens me that a father can be so selfish and not give a sh*t about how his daughter would feel if he were to die. Its hearbreaking to see that for a man, following this so-called cultural belief is more important than the feelings/needs of the wife/children.