Huge fight with husband

[Reha]

Re: Huge fight with husband

@Iconoclast

I can qoute the post where u did bit i will let it go.

Pakistan meiN hamaiN buzurgooN ji izzat aur farman bardari sikhai gaye thi aur ye bhi sikhaya gya tha ke, behen aur beti ko hamesha detey haiN, un se letey kuch nahiN.

If u had read my first couple of posts, i never said that its wrong for her to think of her parents nor i said that her husband was right to object to it. What i did say is that parents shudn’t accept money from their married daughters. Never claimed that Islam says so, its a cultural thing. And in my opinion its a noble thing for a man not to take anything from her sisters and daughters. If some people are happy in doing so, its up to them, for me i will prefer to starve then to take money from my daughter.

Its about perspective and baroN ki izzat which is lost these days.

Its noble for a man not to take money from his sisters and daughters. But its a very shameful thing if your parents or your wife’s parents are in need and you feel it against your morals to help because they are “larki ke maa baap aur is vaja se vo larki se kuch le nahin saktay”. That is wrong.

Larki unki aulaad hai aur khidmat unka bhi haqq hai…ya vo is haqq ko bhool jayein kyun ke unko Shanzai ke husband jaise damaad milay hein? Unke betay nahin hein?

You’re forgetting a large population of people on this planet who do not have sons…only daughters and sometimes only one daughter. Some are not well off. Some are ill.

Who takes care of them? Nursing homes? Welfare?

I don’t think so. If my (or anyone’s) parents need something and I cannot be there for them in whatever way…its something to be ashamed of.