I am Hugger - it’s a “khandani bemari” from my mom’s side.
My dad’s side of the family lets just say the whole “mehram na mehram” thing is taken a bit too far. I even stay away from the 10 year olds because I don’t want to get a lecture.
To me, it so awkward to shake their hand. I feel like I am doing them an unjustice.
Would you just hug them anyway? At a wedding should I hug my mother side of the cousins and politely nod at the father’s side.
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Well I do shake hands with boys. When some one introduce little ones.
With girls I don't I just pet them on head. Even if they are 2-3 years old.
Only shake hands with my own nieces.
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I don't see what the big deal is. They are your blood relatives. Depends on how the cousins on your dad's side would react. If you hugged them, would they reciprocate? Or would they back away?
I honestly never understood the mehram/na-mehram thing. If you are pure of heart, then what's the big deal?
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^ me too I just hug ! They just relatives. If you don't want to be hug just wear a "please don't touch me sign" or something
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its different for chicks then men. So much Micheal Jackson stuff going on I rather don't touch any one but my own blood.
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hugs. especially for close family - uncles, aunts, grandmas, cousins and any little ones. the extra cute little ones get bugged for goodbye kissies as well. shaking hands with relatives is just cold, imho. come to think of it, the ones that arent close enough to get hugs get nods or cheesy salutes or half hugs..hmm
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half hug is good for female relitives. Who are far apart in age. Like side ways.
hugs. especially for close family - uncles, aunts, grandmas, cousins and any little ones. the extra cute little ones get bugged for goodbye kissies as well. shaking hands with relatives is just cold, imho. come to think of it, the ones that arent close enough to get hugs get nods or cheesy salutes or half hugs..hmm
dude, my own mum only shook my hand the other day when she was leaving after coming to see me at the hospital. but i know she was worried about me by the look on her face. yet we hug other people we are less close to if it's expected.
you don't always need physical affection to show you care; not all families are the touchy feely kind.
i would hug!
me too :)
Like queer said imo shaking hands with relatives seems a bit cold
I honestly never understood the mehram/na-mehram thing. If you are pure of heart, then what's the big deal?
Only if there was a way to read people's intentions and see the purity in their hearts.
I don't see what the big deal is. They are your blood relatives. Depends on how the cousins on your dad's side would react. If you hugged them, would they reciprocate? Or would they back away?
I honestly never understood the mehram/na-mehram thing. If you are pure of heart, then what's the big deal?
you should have you judge in Micheal Jackson trials.
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I love hugging 
and my family is cool with it. Just a few family members are a bit conservative and I respect that.
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Hugs are drugs!
I hate hugging anyone other than my daddi, my siblings and my nephews and nieces. I usually have to bribe the nephews and nieces in order to get a hug, but once they do hug me I tell them it means that we are now married. Easiest way to make them cry and never annoy you!
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hugs. I love handing out hugs…I think they’re the best. And just because I love hugs so much njgal, here you have one…and for free!
not all families are the touchy feely kind.
you are right stoppit.
Initially my inlaws thought that it so odd that us siblings and cousins are always hugging each other. To them - you hug to console each other.
My younger brother was over this weekend and he always drapes his hands over my shoulder.
At one point my husband kiddling said to him "let go of my wife dude"
He said "dude - she was my sister first"
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If your spouses best friends hug you - do you think that odd or are they included in the extended family category?
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^ that's a bit odd i'd say..
Hugging male cousins/realitives for me is big NO. However if they are alot younger than me it's ok.