Hubby wants kids, she doesn't

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Re: Hubby wants kids, she doesn’t

@S_Punk

“Leaving it to Allah” is the reason that Pakistanis have come to the situation where households have 9 children but income only to feed 2.

Allah also gave us logic and reason, we’re different from animals for a reason, no? She is not permanently not wanting children - it’s just a matter of…let me wait a year or two. Everyone’s situation is different. At the end of the day, everything is in the hands of Allah - we have no definite control over that, ever. If He wishes, she could be prego without even knowing it, despite her bc. But He gave us free will/reason/logic for a reason.

I think it’s her right to say, hey let’s wait. Esp if her husband knew her wishes before their marriage, and agreed to those wishes. Taking a break from your kids is really hard, especially for your career. Cos after kids, everything pales in comparison right? I think a vast majority of women dedicate themselves to their children even though they might have had different plans before the kid. So it’s hard to say..“Oh she can just resume career-building after the kid.” You don’t raise a kid overnight, it’s years and years. 20+ years.

I appreciate. Leaving it to Allah here doesnt really mean having children non stop. What I meant was something else. Anyway.