Wifey: “…To Kis Say Hoga…?”
For the husbands who are too protective towards their wives, not letting them have kids, not even one. 
Men, may I dare to ask why?
Sure such husbands are extremely caring, but living by such rules and regulations is just outrageious, irritating, and plain cruel for the wives. Oh and then they talk about adopting kids, 4, 5, 6, 7..or more of them. How should the wives respond to such an issue?
I mean, Damn you!!! don’t you want your OWN kids?
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wtf. I've never heard of a situation like this. No way would any guy ever say that...instead he would be thinkin something like "you bes do it biaatch" :D
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geek - This does happen! I am facing this problem rightnow and I have no idea how to handle it.
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He wants to adopt rather than have his own children?
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errr..surprizing
never heard of that one before
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Why would any man want to adopt when he can have his own?
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^^
Too lazy?
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i doubt he would be lazy when it comes to making babies
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hmmmm ... never heard of the situation.... hum nai tu hamesha suna hai "yeh dil mangey more"
I'm clueless i guess you can say "tu tum ker k dekha doo...tum sai ho ga kia?" ...thats the best (and lamest) i can come up with :)
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You knw he is just caring and sensitive towards it.. he knows he can't experience it himself but have seen someone else gone through it with great deal of trouble.. its best for you to sit down with him and tell him that you are ready to handle the 9 months of pregnancy
i knw i used to be like that.. i actually tell every girl that Allah has given them a special power none of the guys will ever have.. all that pain that they go through seems like nothing when they see that baby.. i have seen so much happiness in mothers eyes that i don't have words to explain..
so sit down with him and give him a thanda glassss pani ka. (very important) and then explain to him.. i knw in his heart he wants a baby but he doesn't want you to go through pain .. tell him the rewards and happiness of a gift of Allah and inshaAllah he will understand your point :)
good luck..
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You haven’t wrote exactly why your husband doesn’t want to have biological children. Is he afraid for your health? Do you have any kind of medical condition that puts your health in danger if you get pregnant? Is there any kind of genetic diseases in your OR his family that puts the biological child at a higher risk for having it?
If it’s your health that he’s worried about, then why don’t you make an appointment with your OB/GYN, take your husband with you, and have the OB/GYN explain to him that you’re in no danger from the pregnancy.
Whatever the reason is, being a female, I don’t think I’d be upset if my husband didn’t want to have biological children but wanted to adopt instead. Pregnancy/Childbirth is not the most “fun” experience on the earth from what I hear…and in my eyes, children are children. There are thousands out there who need a loving mom and dad. If I adopt an infant, I would see that child just like I see my own family…he/she wouldn’t be any less “my child” just b/c I didn’t give birth to him/her physically.
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lost like it or not love for your own biological child vs love for adopted child might not be same.. we are humans and yes we are attached to our blood relations. If i say something bad about your next door neighbour you won't get that mad .. as suppose to lets say i say something offensive about your dad.. get my point?
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Thinking that adoption is “lazy” is sick, very sick.
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well talk to him and see if he agrees. if not simply tie him down on the bed and go nuts. 
:k: 
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the bond between an adopted child and his adoptive parents and vice versa is not quite the same thing as the relationship between someone and their neighbour.
although in Pakistan there is a gaali …parossi ki aulaad, in which case i guess the debate is a lil bit different
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Lajawab - Too lazy to do what? .. O nevermind.
Decent 6chora - That was my first reaction since I thought he was joking.
Ansoon and Lost - I have tried the “talk it out with him” remedy, it just doesn’t work. He keeps telling me how risky it is and he can’t imagine me going through this. I am not even the fragile type, so I don’t know why he freaks out when I mention this to him. Yes, I am anemic and my blood count is very low - so what? Half os us are anemic anyway. I’ve had surgeries and that was long time ago. Everybody falls ill once in a while, that shouldn’t be a huge issue. I am healthy enough to go through the pain. He needs 100% assurance from the doctor, which is not possible - there’s always some risk involved. How do I convince him?
I don’t know if I should be upset!
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how long u have been married to him??....
if its not that long.. than be patient and wait till he changes his opinion...i am sure sometime down the road he will change ..
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Very true! I am not against adoption; what bothers me is him thinking I am not patient or strong enough.
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Not very long.. I think you are right. It’s the “newly wed” phase that he’s going through.
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Definitely more to this than meets the eye. His argument is ridiculous.