OK i am sick and tired of my hubby’s chicarai friends.they are always at our place ,and if they miss that oppertunity then we always find us when we are alone dinning out.i am sick and tired of them,they dont give us any space..YES i did talk to my hubby regarding it but man:smack: he doesnot have that much nerve to say NO to them after all they are his school plus college and now job friends.i decided to tell them that its rude to be a leach.but my huuby told me that i will consider it a batamezi:bummer:
and now its my birthday and one of his friend invited us at his place to celebrate it..HELLOO …i dont want to spend it with you guys i want to be with my hubby.When he gets off the phone I am like “whatever it is- the answer is NO.”
I’m just miffed he’d even ask us.
My husband didn’t call him back- he was like “yeah I figured the answer was no, but I just wanted to get off the phone.”
And now I’m like oh great- because YOU can’t say no to your friend you make ME the excuse? Why not just say "sorry no,
I've seen similar to this with my bhabi who lives in another country. When we went over, she used to call her husband (my bro) 's close friend.....her souten.....They always go out boys night, joke together alot so when they are together you better watch out. It was soo funny, she says it's "as if i'm the one interfering in their "relationship" as a 2nd wife/aurat" (a joke of hers) and sometimes finds it amusing.
Make your hubby move to a new city at least you two will be alone for some time.
Talk to all of them in a hint giving way if they do not take a hint then
Have a straight talk with them.
Give them cold shoulder.
Next time put some jamal ghota/laxative in their food or chai. Keep doing that till they get scared of your cooking.
Do not treat them with nice food and snacks just daal roti and only chai. The more nice food and snacks they get the more they would want to hang around.
Ghee sedhee unglion say na niklay to ungli tareeh karney partee hay. ( Please don't ask me to translate it as translation will ruin it)
Mirch bahi when ever they come my hubby order food from a restaurent and plus if i say lets watch a movie he simply gets sleepy,and if his friends come at 11 ,unn ki neend bhaag jati hai:eek:
This is your moment girl, call your hubby's friend in front of hubby and tell the friend that not only we are coming but hubby is going to give me that big surprise gift right in front of everyone, and then whisper to the friend loudly so that hubby can hear that I know its a 24 karat diamond ring ..
I am sure that hubby will figure out a way to say no to the friend and if not then so what. either way its going to be a win win situation for you
This is your moment girl, call your hubby's friend in front of hubby and tell the friend that not only we are coming but hubby is going to give me that big surprise gift right in front of everyone, and then whisper to the friend loudly so that hubby can hear that I know its a 24 karat diamond ring ..
I am sure that hubby will figure out a way to say no to the friend and if not then so what. either way its going to be a win win situation for you
So you can still put jamal ghota in that food while you serve it to them , they will have instant reaction and leave after a couple of trips to rest room.
There is a very powerful laxative in US it is over the counter now it used to be prescription it is called Miralax it is tasteless and colorless and odorless use it.
Oh they will get fed up soon…wait till they all get married. In fact, I say you use your unproductive time finding wives for your hubby’s pals and when all that is done, trust me you’ll be starting a thread asking why all those friends you took care of last year don’t visit anymore
^it actually depends on the friends. My uncle and his guy friends always go out/ hang out with each other and their wives hate it. Sometimes they leave the wives together so the wives can hangout while they go out alone. But these men are also cheating on their wives.
On the other hand when I got married, my husband drastically reduced the amount if time he spent with his friends. Most of the times he's with his friends, I'm there with him and I love it when they come over cuz most of them are fun to hang out with. Also he rarely goes out alone with his guy friends anymore and at those times I make sure I don't butt in. What u have to do is try to make ur husband tell them he wants to spend some time with u alone. If u speak to his friends, u will look like the bad person and if those friends are really close u don't want them talking behind yr back with yr husband cuz that will make him feel bad and be will probably be upset at u. Tell him he needs to talk to his friends.
Wait till the friends get married??? Why on earth would you want to do that.....
I´d say, if your husband can´t do the talking and the refusing, you might as well do it yourself! Free yourself from a passive victim position and become more assertive....
`Sorry, but we have planned something ´private´ for our special day.....´
´Aap logo ko kabaab me haddi ban ne ka kitna shauk he ..... ´
´Lagta he tum logo ke liye bhi jaldi koi larki dheek ni parrey gi............´
And yes, once your husband finds himself in very difficult situations where you tell his friends to take a hike, obviously in a sarcastic manner without directly offending them, he WILL say NO eventually!
Men are in a difficult conflicting position when it comes to old/childhood friends. Its not as simple as saying 'No we have other plans'. They should give you some space, yes, but spoiling your man's childhood bonds might not be the best thing to do.
Like Nik said, once they are all married they will stop 'being leeches' like you put it. For now, let the man be.
