Re: Hubby changing his mind and making me sick
Based on all the information so far I would advise you to compromise with the situation for now as you have been in the past. Yes he did bad by going back on his decision to let your friend come and live in. As I see it your husband thinks that he is doing some kind of favor by marrying and supporting you. You can try to win his heart by being as compromising and submissive as you can be . You definitely can not win his heart by arguing , bickering and by being aggressive and assertive.
If he is abusive to the point where he hits you or gives you mental torture then you know what to do to avoid those situations . Only you know the complete picture and how you can handle your husband so work accordingly.
My two cents. I might be wrong.