I'm dependent on him because he supplies the medical insurance (I'm chronically seriously ill). And I can't support myself. I can't even barely walk right now because of a spinal injury, and I'm handicapped due to it.
There are times when he's supportive. And** I tend to equate monetary support as love (paying for my food, shelter, etc).** But I just can't help but feel that this isn't how it should be. I have a history of abuse in my life and I don't think I can discern what real love is.
I don't want a divorce. I want to stay with him and I want things to change. I just don't see how that's going to happen.
I happen to believe that it is the husbands DUTY to provide food and shelter etc, I wouldn't feel indebted to him, I would just think he is doing his Islamic duty as a husband. So don't feel like u owe him anything for that, that's what husbands r for.
U should enjoy being a kept woman! I know it sounds crazy, but think about it, at the moment u cannot work bcos of you health, so u may as well not fight it and allow yourself to fully take advantage of it. You owe nothing to your husband, he owes it to u to take care of u in this way.
Do u think that u must b supporting yourself even after u get married? I don't think that, but yes I do work for most of the time.