Gals what do you think, life after marraige should be. Are hubby and wife equal? or hubby is the head of family and wives should listen to him, or… what is ur point? "
This stupid friend of mine thinks that he can not live with a girl, cause he is very backward, or he needs a girl with proper hijab and etc
here are his points
The girl shouldnt interfere in my out door problems
She should stay home, mean not work or go out alot
Wear proper Hijab
She should listen to whatever he say
And he thinks no girl can do that, that is why he is not gonna marry… Guys what do you think… I personnaly think he is a dumb person who is wasting his life…
Yaar any girl can do that… If the guy is giving her proper shelter and support and love.. what else a girl needs… ,
so what do you girls think… will you marry with such a person..
I will absolutly live with such a person…
It really depends. If he is a person that can be depended on and is a person of his word, it may work and he may find a woman that will work with him.
I work outside the home and I am pretty independent, but my husband runs my house absolutely. Before I married him, I listened to everything he said, listened to what all said about him, and watched how he dealt with situations. I trust him absolutely to make the best decisions about his (our) family.
If he told me tomorrow that he doesn't want me to work and he needs me at home, then I would quit and do as he says. However, he knows I love my job and the extra income is nice, he would never say that because he takes my feelings into account. He sometimes will tell me that he wishes me to cover my shoulders more or maybe not wear a particular skirt somewhere, therefore I change, because I respect his wishes. I may not agree, but I know he says these things not out of meaness but concern. He trusts me with outher men, so I can go out with them (I mean dinner for work, nothing else), but I always invite another girl from the office so I don't give him a reason to doubt. He is allowed to go where he pleases, by the same token he has never given me a reason to doubt.
I only mention this because if your friend is someone who shows he is worth this sacrifice (not someone who demands it), then he will find someone who is willing to do as he wishes out of respect. If he is all talk and the woman's needs are never considered, then he will find a naive person at first, but over time will come to despise him.
Yes..your friend is a self centered person. If he wants the girl to change for him then he should be ready to change him as per her demands....Its always a two way street...
But do you think, a 28 year old man can change himself…
He knows that it is not possible… that is why he decided never to marry…
Do you think he is making a good decision?
That's pathetic. It's better he doesn't marry and ruin some girl's life. This sort of attitude reeks of insecurity. There is absolutely nothing wrong in a wife "interfering" in affairs lol, in fact it helps to have a second opinion on most things.
I will tell you what he should do. He should ask his ammi to find him a girl from pakistan..there are many girls even on this board who would treat him like the pati parmeshwar that he wants to be. Hijab-not a issue, being told what to do-not an issue, stay at home cook, clean, squeeze out puppies-not an issue, roll over and play dead-not an issue. He can even beat her lightly-not an issue. Right girls?
