are we supposed to cope with desi aunties here in the west and even back home sorry if it’s been discussed before and sorry if it’s not the right place
but its something that bugs me soooooo much
their rude manners:snooty:
bad habbits:grumpy:
the way they look at you:mad:
the rumours they invent from their mis-understanding:hoonh:
how they butt in your personnel matters
the way they 're always giving advice to you:naraz:
etc… etc… this list could go on for ever so i best stop
so what can/should we do
filhaal i gave a few desi aunties bad looks when they were staring at me as if i was from another planet and they did “shikayat” to my mama about it
and in weddings they push you and i pushed back and stamped on so many aunties who later did a “shikayat again” dis time my mama asked what was wrong with me (because i was being quite aggresif towards aunties for some time) and why i was being so harsh with women i said that first of all they should learn manners and ways to control themselves cuz i aint making any changes for such bad mannered women:snooty:
my mum was like “kisi ka to lehaaz kardiya karo” i said “nope” thats just how i am
so what kind of portion or formula will work on these aunties???
Tell the aunties "with all due respect, I'm not interested in your advice, I want to live my own life". Believe me, they'll stop giving you advice, but they will spread rumors about you, you just have to get past it and let barking dogs lie.
pfp: This is the only amusement these aunties have, i know exactly what ur going through. It cant be ignored or stopped. The best way to deal with this is to not interact with those aunties anymore. Dont be rude to um, just keep away from them. Say salam whenever u see them but thats it.
lolz aahmed thats a cool phrase and as you said they're gonna spread rumours and tell everyone how badtammez how you are wheras you just say a simple phrase to them
argh how da hell are we supposed to cope i just can' stand it no more one desi aunty i cant bare for more the 15-20 mins they give a a splitting heache
i just wish i could get them straight because they're just part of our life they're everywhere so we can't avoid them
therez gotta be a way to stop them from their bad habbits !!!!!!!!!!!!!
lol music maniac its not that easy because if you say salaam they grab hold of you and don’t let you go they start asking you questions asking your mum stuff about you start giving advice to my mum wheras my knows how to cope with children:o t then there they go with their nonsense and give you a BAD heaache so many times i’ve tried escaping but they just won’t let you go so they only way i have left it not say salaam but i don’t like that myself its rude not saying salaam and again they’ll spread rumours about you thats why im just so sick of it:teary1: !
even outside when im with my friends or cousins they stop me in the road/street/store/shop/ wherever i am with whoever i am first they’ll give me looks for good 5 mins the bomb me with questions and evrything i get so embarassed in front of my friends especially when they’re non-desi
man i've yet to face such aunties..desi aunties here are so catty- n they're so political, we , young girls have to be on our toes all the time- i'm so tired of comming up of new ways- they always seem a level ahead in everything. I agree that experience teaches you alot but these aunties know how to tackle each n every situation so beautifully, i think its just that they (somehow) carry that 'grace' that we girls do not have-- younger generation is just plain raw! blah! so insecure and so into themselves.
bibi learn to listen/respect elders first even if they are your parents.
abt aunties. thats how they are. learn to live with it or migrate to some other planet where aunties are friendly with rude brats like you.
sorry i didnt get that first part in punjabi
who says i dont' repsect elders??? being a bit harsh towards some annoying desi aunties doesn't make you someone who doesn't respect elders
xcuz me but either you're a desi aunty yourself just like the onez i mentioned above and you didnt like what i said about those aunties or either you're living in some country with no desi aunties at all or all the desi aunties in your country are all perfect now all of these are almost impossible so whats your problem??????
well if all that is impossible then its also impossible for EVERY AUNTY to be rude, annoying and bad and no i’m not an aunty, i’m an aunta as in unkle.
maybe its the bad vibes off u that makes every aunty around u behave in a weird way. who knows its u and not them who is bad. :halo:
Just because she doesn’t want to take any crap from some lady who has nothing to do with her doesn’t mean she doesn’t respect her elders. You know, elders can be wrong too, and they CAN be a pain in the a$$ too, or are you the kind of person who doesn’t do ANYTHING withouth Mummy’s permission?
awww i feel for u, whenever i c one of those gossipmonger aunties at the mall/road i just wave at them and smile and if they havent noticed me. I change my direction and act like i havent seen um (u should try it, it will work) Well if u already know if those aunts are visiting u, just go out of the house or stay in ur room acting as if u dont exist and if they arive at ur place unannounced then grab ur keys and act as if ur in a hurry and u have to be somewhere, say salam and just leave saying “i would have loved to stay here and talk to u wonderful ladies but unfortuantely i have to be some place”.
ok aunta then how come you stiking up for those band manered women???
yes im bad no one is perfect but i’m not the only one complaining about these bad mannerd aunties so dont say that its me thats bad or that i’m acting weird
get a life !!!
lol music maniac its not that easy because if you say salaam they grab hold of you and don’t let you go they start asking you questions asking your mum stuff about you start giving advice to my mum wheras my knows how to cope with children:o t then there they go with their nonsense and give you a BAD heaache so many times i’ve tried escaping but they just won’t let you go so they only way i have left it not say salaam but i don’t like that myself its rude not saying salaam and again they’ll spread rumours about you thats why im just so sick of it:teary1: !
lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz so true i agree with you there