This is what happend with my friend. What you guys will feel/do in this situation??? Your parents are looking for a girl for you to get married. Its not 100% arranged as your parents give importance to your likes and dislikes. You meet a family for this purpose and after meeting for 5-6 months your parents finally send the proposal. Everyone is sure that this proposal will be accepted as it is obvious from other side that they are also interested but for surprise its rejected. Reason??? Their Istikhara came out negative. This is something that was suggested from your side when you proposed that both families should seek Istikhara. From your side it is positive but not from their side. Although they were very willing but now confused and rejected the proposal only for this reason??? How do you guys feel in this situation???
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I think that people need to understand Istikhara.
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I would just move on.
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tick tack situation. ask them to do the Istikhara again and again until they get a fav answer. Allah tang ake apka maan-pasand jawab de hi dega apko :D :p
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How can the Ithikhara be different? I mean God wouldnt say one thing to one party and the opposite thing to the other party? Dosnt make sense. Unless God has a wicked sense of humour :D
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Or unless they're lying n just use it as an xcuse to reject u
Perhaps the rejecting party was in loev with someone and THEY finally accepted them :p
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Or perhaps the person doing Isthikhara had too much to eat the night before and was having digesting problems and mistakenly thought it was a bad sign from God. How sad :(
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ive done istikhara before and I never got any sign, just a stupid dream 
I think alot of ppl have a misunderstanding of it, like sign comes in a dream, or u must not talk afterwards or whatever.. Someone xplained to me thas all desi stuff (dreams and doing istikhara during Isha) so im not too sure.. 
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HAHAHA, this is what happens to people who believe in nonsensical things like Istikhara.
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Can someone explain what this Istikhara is? Is it a religious thing?
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Actually there is nothing wrong with Isthikhara, but there is a lot of misconceptions about how it should be done. Most people say a prayer and then go to bed and hope for some holy figure to appear in their dream and tell them exactly what to do.
Instead, after saying the prayer you decide to go with what your heart or instinct tells you all the while believing that God will ensure the best for whatever decision you take.
Then again, the Istikhara issue is also a common bahana to put a swift end to a proposal without too much embarrassment.
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I agree with skhan, istikharas need to be understood properly before analysing them. I have done istikhara on different occasions and didnt wait for dreams to make my decisions. I went with my instincts. If i was having trouble coming to a decision either way, an isitkhara made me feel strongly about yay or nay.
Then again, not everyone believes in them. Last time i posted abt istikharas, a guppy made sure he followed me around the forums and take oppurtunity to ridicule me doing istikharas.
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lots of ppl don't even know how to say namaz properly and they want to do istikhara for every petty issue in their life. i mean its not such an easy thing to do and not every one can do it properly unless u hve enough knowledge.
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Happens a lot in Pak society I've noticed. Happened w/ my uncle but he still forced the girl's side to re-consider and after quite a bit of deliberation they accepted the proposal.
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mamaof3, some reference material.
Salat-l-Istikhara
This "prayer for guidance" is often used to help in important decision-making
Anytime a Muslim is making a decision, he or she should seek Allah's guidance and wisdom. Allah alone knows what is best for us, and there may be good in what we perceive as bad, and bad in what we perceive as good.
If you are ambivalent or unsure about a decision you have to make, there is a specific prayer for guidance (Salat-l-Istikhara) that you can do to ask for Allah's help in making your decision. Should you marry this certain person? Should you attend this graduate school? Should you take this job offer or that one? Allah knows what is best for you, and if you are not sure about a choice that you have, seek His guidance.
The Prophet Muhammad said, "If one of you is concerned about some practical undertaking, or about making plans for a journey, he should perform two cycles (rak'atain) of voluntary prayer." Then he/she should say the following du'a:
Translation:
Oh Allah! I seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power; I have none. And You know; I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things.
Oh Allah! If in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is good for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And ordain for me the good wherever it may be, and make me content with it.
Transliteration:
Allahumma inni astakheeroka bi ilmik. Wa'astaq-diroka biqodratik. Wa'as'aloka min fadlikal-azeem. Fa'innaka taqdiru wala aqdir. Wata lamo wala-a lam. Wa'anta-allamul ghuyoob.
Allahumma in kunta ta lamu anna (hathal-amra*) khayul-lee fi deenee wama ashi wa ajila amri wa'ajilah, faqdorho lee, wayassirho lee, thomma-barik lee fih. Wa'in konta ta lamo anna (hathal-amra*) sharrul-lee fi deenee. Wama ashi. Wa ajila amri. Wa'ajilaho. Fasrifho annee. Wasrifnee anh. Waqdur leyal-khayr haytho kan. Thomma ardini bih.
- When making the du'a, the actual matter or decision should be mentioned instead of the words "hathal-amra" ("this matter").
- After doing salat-l-istikhara, you may feel more inclined toward a decision one way or the other.
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PK TUNN- may be woh ap ke haq mein bhetar tha par larki ke haq mein nahe.
Its hard to accept but its true. I know a friend of mine let go of her love when she did istakara and it came negative. Its tough to accept it.
It makes you wonder does one suppose to do istakara before falling in love with someone?
-interesting thread....
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i don't believe in such bogus stuff...its a tradition that we get from the hindu's
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Lol this is the first time i have heard istikhara being taken from Hindus.