Have an open conversation with him. Tell him with all the seperate vacation stuff in the past, u being away for a month recently and now this, u r trying to wrap ur head around why he specifically wants to be away from u all the time. Why he would want u to not go to another country with him when u guys can afford it and when u want to go. Ask him if u had no babies right now would he still want u to be there? He should say yes on this one. And then that's ur chance to say that what difference does it make if the baby's there, ur taking care of him doing all the baby stuff so then it should make no difference whatsoever and u should both be travelling.
It depends on what you want to do with him. Do you love him enough to be patient to see him change?
If you do, you will have to take the first step in making sure things change. You will have to pay attention to him, his needs, be a friend, stop nagging, ease up on him a bit, etc. Sometimes giving someone space is what makes them close that space themselves.
How does someone who doesn't have money to pay for his wife but then goes traveling alone for a full month not once but is planning to go again for 2? Is he going alone or with friends? Who travels alone so much? So weird. And yet his excuse is he doesn't want to waste the money being spent for his baby? Makes no sense. I'm sorry for your situation op, it sounds bad. :(
I went to mauritius last year on honeymoon and we saw a couple there with a 10-12 month old baby.. Who seemed to be enjoying her time in the pool with her mum sitting on the beach and playing with the sand.. So thats total bs that kids dont enjoy yes they are kids and may not remember as much but still! Its not the end all of travelling with a kid! You should say to hubby u wud like a break aswell abd all 3 of u go on a family holiday.
Reha, I believe i give him enough space. i am a no nagging wife. he plays X-box when he wishes to, watches movies. He sleeps when he wants, eats when he wants and what he wants. He doesnt have many friends , also doesnt like going out that much.I try to be his friend as much as i can. I am never pushy on what i want (like clothes or anything else). he doesn give me enough money to get everything i need and for the baby.
Really REALLY fishy! I would open my eyes! For me it doesn't sound right AT ALL him making plans as a single man once that he is married and have a kid.
If i were you i would make sure that there are no second plans under these real plans he is making.
I know A LOT of pakistani married men that have outside marriage relationship online, and then meet with those woman in diff countries every once in a while.....
It goes to show you that we really don't know someone. if a person is living with you every day or you're around someone most of your life but yet they're a mystery as much as you try to understand or figure them out.
sryope maybe he's lost his way and is being manipulated by someone and that is what is causing him to hide his reasons for doing this. Would you be able to hire a private detective or a friend to follow him to make sure he isn't being manipulated or taken advantage of or is being deceitful to you. Rather than being emotional and expecting him to be caring, be practical and get your mind ready anything. I'm not saying accuse him of anything because he might just need some alone time because of something he might be going through but don't let yourself be shocked and unable to handle anything negative.
Well, I'm sick of visiting places alone and want some company and your husband wants to go alone. Clearly we humans are never satisfied with what we have.
Well, I'm sick of visiting places alone and want some company and your husband wants to go alone. Clearly we humans are never satisfied with what we have.
I really doubt he will be alone, no one goes on holidays alone, unless he I going to Bangkok
what about before baby? when you got married, did you have a honeymoom or any other vacations together? I'm trying to tease out if its teh baby he has a problem with or if its you. if he loves to travel so much but didn't take you on a honeymoon etc before your pregnancy you've got a huge problem on your hands.