this evening, my sister in law called me up, she was leaving for a wedding, so wanted my hair iron.. (lives nearby), I couldn’t refuse and sent it to her.. the problem is, i have no issue to let her use it, but her kid is veryyyyyyyyyyyyyy naughty.. i was only afraid.. he can touch it and misuse it.. also because I know his mother.. she doesn’t stop him from ANYTHING.. she just slightly says.. dont do it.. but she doesnt move from her place to stop her kid from messing around..
I want to know.. how to tackle such situation?? as far as, these are the most sensitive relations and you never know, when they make an issue out of tiny things!!
I am still very worried about it!! I dont know when will she return it.. where she has kept it.. !!
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Have you ever been in a situation where she had borrowed something from you and it came back broken in pieces? If not, my advice would be to just chill. She's a grown-up woman, and I'm sure she has the decency to give you back your belongings in one piece. And I'm sure she's a careful mum who will keep an eye out on her kid for him not to hurt himself with the hair iron. Relax. :)
If you don't want to lend out your things, just say you don't lend your things out. Baat khatam.
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^ oh, can't say that bluntly!!
yeah, not borrowing, but often when she is in my room, she sits aside and her kid messes around.. she doesnt stop him and in the end, this is ME, who has to stand up and take my things from him!!
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honestly i dnt c how u can tackle it any other way except ignoring it n not making a big deal out of it! if u confront her it is bound to get ugly and rightly so. these relationships r very sensitive n u dnt wanna spoil it for such small things. just ask her tactful that u need it if she doesnt return it on time.
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**i hate those parents who are NOT stopping their children from doing nasty stuff.
you may have sent a note to her that, since iron is can get very very HOT and dangerous, plz make sure you keep it away from your kid. she would have gotten you message. :D**
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I totally get where you're coming from. It may be just a hair iron to some, but it's YOUR hair iron. I get very attached to my belongings, and I hate it when somebody who I think will not care for my things takes them.
I suppose next time you could say it's not working, or you can't find it....or something along those lines.
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it is.. since it was gifted to me by my hubby!!
thanks for getting my point.. well no, i know she will be careful while its hot.. BUT.. the thing is.. hamaray susraal main rivaaj hay.. bachha rotay rotay knife bhi mangta hay to wo usay de di jati hay.. LITERALLY! I hate this too..so once, it is not turned on.. and harmless.. if he asks for it.. she can give it.. ke ok, thori der khel lo..!!
Re: how to stop your in-laws relatives from borrowing??
I totally get where you're coming from. It may be just a hair iron to some, but it's YOUR hair iron. I get very attached to my belongings, and I hate it when somebody who I think will not care for my things takes them.
I suppose next time you could say it's not working, or you can't find it....or something along those lines.
the problem is.. its always working :D
I mean, i fix it on my dressing table!! i have my room set.. its a comfortable room, when i need to watch a movie on DVD.. i am not busy in managing the wires.. i just take the remote and sit in my blacket and play the movie!! all is set in my room!!
Re: how to stop your in-laws relatives from borrowing??
I totally get where you're coming from. It may be just a hair iron to some, but it's YOUR hair iron. I get very attached to my belongings, and I hate it when somebody who I think will not care for my things takes them.
I suppose next time you could say it's not working, or you can't find it....or something along those lines.
I know what you are saying but i only said that cuz its still not worth putting your relationship with yr inlaws at stake.
it is.. since it was gifted to me by my hubby!! :(
Well i know yar but this same husband is gonna make hell for you if you make a big deal out of this. You know what i mean?
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well, you dont know the story behind.. so.. you wont understand it.. and i AM very possessive about my belongings.. and NO.. no one in home, uses my straightener! it not an “other iron” its HAIR iron.. hair straightener!! got it now??
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Some people just aren’t ok with sharing stuff. Let her know how you feel about her borrowing stuff from you all the time. Or you can just tell her you don’t have it at the time, misplaced it, gave it to someone, it’s not working properly, etc etc. Make up an excuse.
P.S. I love giving my things away. I am like my Dad. If someone likes something that belongs to me, I insist they take it. Once I realize I need it back, i am like
seriously.. i thought.. what happened to you!!
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some people aren’t a GOOD liar!