before marriage, my husband would constantly care for me, ask me if im ok, ask if im hungry, ask me to sit and talk to him for hours…now- not so muchhhh, why. and here i am, i get over emotional if i see him looking after his mum because i would prefer him being that caring only for me…and then il sit there and cry to myself. i need to get over it. how…i think hes become complacent with me, he knows im always there in his face will always go to him…
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he still cares i guess but not in the way it was all before marraige, no OTT
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I think enough is enough........you need to stand up to him..........there is only so much you can take...
why on earth would he look after his own mother? Jeez!!!
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before marriage, my husband would constantly care for me, ask me if im ok, ask if im hungry, ask me to sit and talk to him for hours.....now- not so muchhhh, why. and here i am, i get over emotional if i see him looking after his mum because i would prefer him being that caring only for me...and then il sit there and cry to myself. i need to get over it. how......i think hes become complacent with me, he knows im always there in his face will always go to him......
The underlined and bolded line is what loses you sympathy Nadz. If you said he cares more for his mom or doesn't care for me, I'd understand that you have a right to a grievance against your husband. But what you're implying is you want all of his attention and that he shouldn't care for his mom. That's wrong and quite frankly selfish. But's that's just my opinion...
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that’s ridiculous
I would never suggest filing for divorce but in this case.
I mean when he should take this much care of you and ONLY you, how come he is caring for his mom
such a mommy boy should not have got married in the first place. didnt he know that he has to cut ties with his parents after getting married? these immature guys give us (the guys) such a bad name and just put me off 
He should learn something form me. Just other day, I had only 10$ in my pocket and I bought roses for my honey instead of medicine for my mom 
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Relationships change over time. Before marriage, you two were in the honeymoon phase. Your husband at that time was a single man with not much responsibilities.
Now that you two are married...he's a husband/father. I imagine his stress level is much higher now b/c in addition to his mom, now he's responsible for his wife and a child. Your relationship is done with the "honeymoon" phase....it should be more "solid" and not in need of constant reassurance.
Haven't YOU changed since becoming a wife? Haven't YOU changed at all since becoming a mother? Even when back in UK, did your day to day life not change after marriage? With a newborn baby to care for.....do you really have the time or energy these days to sit around and "talk" for hours with your husband (or anyone else for that matter)?
As for you statement that you would prefer him being ONLY for you....that's very selfish. I'm amazed that as a mother yourself...you would feel that. How would you feel if your child did not care for you 30 years from now?
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Spank him and whip him , that will make him love you and keep yearning for more. So have I heard.
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i dont blame men for this, i guess women just become more demanding after marriage.
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he knows im always there in his face will always go to him......
^That could be part of the problem. It's natural for him to want to look out for your MIL...it is his mother after all. I am curious...is his mom always in his face? It is rather irksome to have someone hovering around you all the time.
It is selfish of you to only want him to care that way for you....that's not possible. You know it will never happen, so why get worked up over it? There are other important people besides you in his life. Maybe you feel this way due to some insecurity that you need to address? Or perhaps you havent been able to connect/gel with his family members and therefore you feel "alone".....and that could be why you want him to yourself...to help alleviate that feeling of lonliness. Try to bond with his parents and siblings...it could improve your relationship with him. You're a big girl, Nadz....do you really need your husband to frequently ask you if you're okay or if you're hungry, etc? Give him some space and a chance to miss you....find some activities to occupy your time with.
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How dare you disrespect women like that?? You sexist chauvinist paki man 
^ thats what you should get ready for now 
Hmm I think maybe you've become too focused on this, my friend went through same thing, she was pretty emotional, jealous of time he spent with his mother. Changed once she had kids and accepted the fact she had share. U need get hobby, like painting or something u find therapeutic. Perhaps take up a class or distract ur mind some how, part time work? If ur not working already? You need to get out of this rut and way if thinking
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calling some one more demanding is not a disrespect, but calling some one Paki is :D.
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well said 
these kind of mama boys are black spot on whole guys community. enough is enough.
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Jealousy is not good.
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you could try telling him lies about the mil.
like tell him she beats you with a pan when he's at work. do it!!
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Although I think you are maybe over-reacting a little, as his relationship with his mum will never disappear just because his wife wants him to be a doting husband and nothing else. However, I still think that you could probably have a break from your husband, possibly visit some family and stay there for a few days. It'd give you both some space and he might appreciate you more - even if it is for a couple of days.
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I think enough is enough........you need to stand up to him..........there is only so much you can take...
why on earth would he look after his own mother? Jeez!!!
Yet some people would have you believe that Pakistani men do not care about their parents at all, they would rather leave that responsibility to their wives and go out and have a laugh.
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is it the same nadz who posted sometime ago abt her MIL being really sick n her being overly concerned abt her mil's health, so much so that she wanted her in laws to move to UK, u know JUST FOR THE SAKE OF HER MIL'S HEALTH ?
some one plz tell me is she the same?
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You must be hormonal because of your pregnancy. Don't take yourself so seriously.
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nadz...stop chasing him around...he will come find you.