Husband beats wife…why?..she says whatever comes in her mouth to her husband…inshort she doesnt care to whom is she talking to…non stop shouting and crying…
and then wife wants khula…reason: “husband beats me”
if you say be mature be brave be strong you have to compromise alot when in a relationship…you’ll get same answers from both of them…“MAINE bohat compromise karlia koi faida nai”
Husband wife both are 27yrz old…both were/are stubborn and very very laadlay kids of their parents…love marriage…
Beating is never justified...there is some mention of beating (with a pencil like object - to tap wife) as per my knowledge this too should be done if she is engaging in adulterous behavior only . For no other reason is it justified.
Anyways, marriage is not a bed of roses. Sometimes people who enjoying falling in love - find it very difficult to stay in love once they are faced with the mundane realities of life. There are those who enjoy the courtship phase and the excitement associated with it. Once they get the prize it is no longer wonderful. Some ppl mistakenly think that no what they do their spouse will stay in love with them.
Husband beats wife. Wife has no respect for husband and says whatever comes to her mind. They’re BOTH stubborn. Neither one of them want to compromise.
Given those 4 facts, you really can’t figure out on your own if this marriage can be saved?!
And frankly speaking, why would anyone else want these 2 to stay together?! So they can procreate and make an innocent child part of their miserable life?
There is a saying that "agar mian biwi razi to kiya karey ga kazi " in this case the halat are completely opposite mian biwi are just not willing to save the marriage so there isn't much one can do !
and just my opinion given the situation in hand that if he beats her she won't use flowery language with him offcourse she will become harsh........he needs to stop his physical abuse and she needs to stop her verbal abuse.
i think it's outright physical abuse which is a crime...she should call 911 and have him arrested for battery...if unchecked, abuse always escalates into something more serious than just battery.
i think its girls fault becoz girl have to quite and not use any harsh words to her husband she should care him then i sure he will never beat him becoz think when husband gets angry or in bad mood give him space after wards he will b fine ... separation is not the solution after separation they both will get married to other persons and both will do this again so how many times they will break marriage like this.. both have to act like a mature persons if they want to save this marriage ..if they love each other they both need to change a little bit ..
I’m absolutely floored that you actually made that statement! The wife in this case is obviously a immature but that does NOT give her husband the right to physically hit her! A real man knows how to control his anger and when to walk away from his situation. NO ONE has the right to physically hit another person just b/c they don’t like what the other person is saying.
So if neither one of them wants to change…she wants to continue being immature and he continues to beat her…you think that’s how they should continue to live the rest of their lives? What good does it do for them to stay together?
It is a vicious cycle of verbal abuse and physical abuse and on top of all that they sound super immature and dheet.If you cannot respect each other,what is the purpose of staying married?
The issue is not saving the marriage.The issue is them becoming better humans first..!
I wondered--what is the point of saving such a marriage where neither party is willing to compromise? Then I realized--it's to save prospective innocent spouses from these idiots.
pheli i am just saying sometimes girls have to quite and listen becoz if she wil continue arguing so both will act like this. we cant say what they want if they want to live with each other then they have to do comprimise otherwise sit and discuss what to do for future
You didnt mention whether the wife shouts first and her husband beats her OR he beats her first and thats how she reacts with shouts??
If its she shouts first then there is no reason she should be calling police or act miserable and go in selfpity!! Its totally her mistake. If she finds her husband disagreeing with her in any aspect..she should find other ways to make him understand her point of view. If she thinks shouting can help any way to make her husband agree with her point then she is surely mistaken. Even if he'd want to, he will never listen to her. Allah has given two powers to both the genders. Physical strength to Men and Mental strength to Women. A woman has much more patience than a man. (Not in every case but most of the times). So, in my opinion, if the couple really wants to save the marriage, then this woman needs to shut her mouth and give her husband some break. Its not how you win a heart.
On the other hand, if its the husband who is physically abusing his wife for nothing then its her right to go for khula. But still, she should not spoil her image by shouting, yelling or acting like an illetrate.. and get seperated with mutual consent.
Hitting can never be justified, any couple who hits each other needs to make a pact to stop this. This is disgusting behaviour. We are only human, and both man and women can become angry. The best advice that I've ever heard for a couple is that if one partner speaks harshly, the other should remain quite. Stay quite even if your partner is wrong, give them a little time then there will be more chances for the partner who was angry to come back to you to sort things out. So don't use the tit for tat technique, that is childish.
I’m absolutely floored that you actually made that statement! The wife in this case is obviously a immature but that does NOT give her husband the right to physically hit her! A real man knows how to control his anger and when to walk away from his situation. NO ONE has the right to physically hit another person just b/c they don’t like what the other person is saying.