Hi, this is a serious issue for me and I would honestly appreciate some tried and tested responses.
I moved to the U.S after getting married about 7 months ago. I do have some immediate family here and some family from my husband’s side. We socialize with them as often as we can, but the problem is that our family is much older than us, and the couples that we have been introduced to through them are also older (and I mean folks who have college/uni. bound kids). My hubby has been here for 7 years, but due to his non-stop education and work, he has hardly ever made the effort to mingle with the younger desi generation. All of his friends are gorey and although I don’t mind meeting with them for a movie once in a while, I just can’t seem to mingle intimately with them or their spouses. I’m looking for desi couples, who may be in the age group of 25±35+. Like minded people we can hangout with, have over for tea or dinner, and share similar talks with.
Have any of you been in a similar position? And if yes, how did you manage to meet other desi friends?
We met most if not all our friends through the masjid. We were invited to one's place and met others there and from then on, got to know more and more people.
Mosque and Desi Grocery shops are best sports to get the friendship going. We made some really good family friends using these places. If community is small in your area, events such as Pakistan day, picnic etc are also good spot to make friends
Those are some realy good suggestions. I've never been to the local masjid, so maybe I should accompany my hubby next time he goes. Also, I remember not attending the eid milan party organized by the Pakistan community. Hmm, I need to brush up my social skills.
u got desi phone (business) directory? start calling people around your area pretending u need informatin on this and this and that...brush up your converstion skills and there u go....can arrage meetings as well...
or go to some desi live show and meet our folks over there
or desi resturants are another place to meet people
Let me take this a little further. How many of you have Desi 'friends' that live near by you ... not just people/couples you hang out with and socialize.
I consider someone a 'friend' when there are no obligations. There is no "takaluf". You call them to say hello and if they need a hand with anything, they know they don't even have to ask and you will be there.
Masjid definitely. You can get involved in activities in masjid. Also just going there, you'll see a lot of people coming upto you and asking if you are new etc. You can go talk to people and tell them you are new. Its the best way of getting to know desis in my opinion.
Let me take this a little further. How many of you have Desi 'friends' that live near by you ... not just people/couples you hang out with and socialize.
I consider someone a 'friend' when there are no obligations. There is no "takaluf". You call them to say hello and if they need a hand with anything,** they know they don't even have to ask and you will be there**.
Thanks for all those ideas. I can certainly try social gatherings and meeting points. And yes, the people I'm talking about are human. It's just having lived in another country my entire life, cept for these past few months, that I find meeting 'new' people a rather difficult task.
I'm in the same pothole, except I'm single. We all have this problem abroad, honestly, because as our communities are not united, and we don't have many common venues in which to meet people...everyone is sorta spread out.
So you have to make one friend, then meet all their friends, then meet all THEIR friends and so on and so forth, until you're the regular socialite.
You're married. If you end uo having a hot son, worry not. You'll be invited to all the hippest dawats in town. :D
I'm in the same pothole, except I'm single. We all have this problem abroad, honestly, because as our communities are not united, and we don't have many common venues in which to meet people...everyone is sorta spread out.
So you have to make one friend, then meet all their friends, then meet all THEIR friends and so on and so forth, until you're the regular socialite.
You're married. If you end uo having a hot son, worry not. You'll be invited to all the hippest dawats in town. :D
Go to masjid and you will meet many desi single girls there .
