how to make strong relationship between husband and wife

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Re: how to make strong relationship between husband and wife

@cancerian87

And what about if one is continuously do that thing which he like if me or someone give adivce he says no he think he is right. Like we are moving to apartment I said I will do this and that in terms of decorating and all he said no that will not look good. Really its very difficult for me to compromise on each and everything.

That’s the thing though…you’re not compromising on everything. You’re arguing about it. Compromising is accepting willingly…not accepting after a fight.

Let him have his say…you sound controlling and its probably beginning to wear on him.

@BombShellBabe

Disagree. As a husband and wife, you are supposed to do things together that also includes attending an event. This helps with nourishing the relationship and having fun together.

No, it doesn’t. It only feeds a childish illusion that women hold thinking “ohhh…im married now…going to go to chacha ki phuppi ki neighbor ki dholki in my new nomi ansari and my hubby on my arm like candy”.

Going to events does not nourish anything but biryani hungry bellies.

@GlobalGal

When some of you say “pick your battles” how do you gauge which issues are worth arguing about? If he never attends any functions with you, most people have never seen your husband’s face ever, is that something that would be an argument worthy issue? If he promises that on thanksgiving or Christmas, both of you will visit the wife’s family but then when Thanksgiving\Christmas\Eid\or whatever holiday comes along, he’s already planned a trip somewhere else or does not want to honor the promise and never keeps promises would that be something to bring up?
It’s the other person’s way or the highway most of the time, the controlling, stubborn personalities that are so difficult to adjust with.

if you want to go to couples’ counselling to make the relationship strong but he refuses, is that battle worthy?

If you end up agreeing and doing everything he or she wants, is there a fine line between doormat and compromise?

Even with friends and coworkers, at what point do you stand up and at what point do you forget about it and just go along with it to keep the peace?

GG. If you gave him the time, space and understanding he asked for…only a mentally deficient fool would not go once in a while.

My husband hatesssss parties with a passion. He doesn’t like them because he cannot each much of the food served…dietary restrictions. I get asked a bazillion times about where he is, how he is, haven’t met your new husband, etc. It doesn’t bother me at all…because he works hard, he’s a good guy and I know he wouldn’t like how he felt going home from a party like that. Why push someone? Especially if you’re not willing to show ANY leniency on your own part? And honestly, what impact do parties make on your relationship? In reality? Social events where the focus is on mingling with OTHER people, not your husband. There’s no nourishing or building going on at social events. If someone is really opposed to them, its not worth fighting over at all.

You know how people say give and take? There’s a reason they say GIVE first. You give first and THEN you become worthy of taking.