how to make strong relationship between husband and wife

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Hello friends

I want to know how can husband and wife relation become strong.how to understand each other? Does every man has some dominanting personality over some issues.does only wife have to compromise?I meab if I says I want to go there husband reject to go. What should I do? And some anger issue also not for me but for others sometime? It’s difficult for me how to understand husband’s nature. And how make him understand.actually I’m also dominating personality.

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Re: how to make strong relationship between husband and wife

Learn to pick your battles.

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Re: how to make strong relationship between husband and wife

Be partners to each other:
- be honest with each other
- respect each other
- be considerate of each other; think of your spouse when making your decisions
- help improve/support each others' relationships with friends/family (remember that love is not finite -- love for others is not a threat for love for your spouse)
- have fun together
- don't feel threatened or insecure about having fun apart
- listen to each other. each person is different and at any given moment, her/his needs and desire may be more complex than you realize. don't make assumptions. talk and listen.
- recognize that this is a commitment for a lifetime iA, and you WILL both change, but not necessarily how you want or expect to.

Here's the other thing. When the labels husband/wife get put upon us, suddenly the relationship turns from being one of love and companionship to being overwhelmed by obligations. People have subconscious expectations of what they are supposed to be as a spouse and what their spouse is supposed to be. We don't even realize a lot of this, just get frustrated when the image and reality don't add up. Be introspective. Really think about what you want your home and life together to be like and communicate your needs and desires with your spouse and make it okay for your spouse to express her/his as well. Now figure out how to make your visions align. Compromise.

Communication and compromise are not a one time thing, but a constant process that must become integral to your daily lives.

Best wishes!

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Re: how to make strong relationship between husband and wife

^ What she said!

There isn't one way to go about this and definitely not a single conversation you can have.

I don't think its the wife that has to compromise necessarily...its the *smarter *one of the two that ends up making a choice to see this relationship through to the end. Sometimes its men and sometimes its women. Its not just women who compromise. Do you think you're perfect?

Figure out what you want and go from there.

Understanding someone means...understanding what they want and translating that into actions. If you just listen and interpret - it means nothing.

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Kill your ego and bury it deep! Ego is your biggest enemy. I fight it everyday!

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Tough call. Mutual respect is important. No easy solution. No one is perfect. So of course you aren't. But it seem s you don't feel your views receive the weight they deserve. Left unaddressed this could build resentment. Esp since you state you are also a dominant personality.

Only you know whether this is something that can be talked out between you two. Or whether that would put his back against the wall.

As Khattichic said pick your battles.

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Thanks for advice :) I m just feeling helpless that how can I understand him and should I go according to his nature or my.I want him to follow me whatever I said or atleast go with me in my relatives like special occasions weddings and dawat.becoz of everyone said me you should come etc plus my frnds and cuzn arrange one dish and all. I think if I say something to him he will say no and then I feel bad.

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Move to Canada, then call police for advice.

On a serious note. You need to grow up and understand, what a relationship means. Its certainly not a husband, wagging his tail and walking behind you, where ever you go.

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True. And neither is it the other way. Hence the conundrum.

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husbands and wives should put himself/herself in the shoes of his/her spouse. learn to feel what your spouse would feel. if it hurts wife then it should hurt him too and vice-verse.

the moment you start feeling your spouses feelings, you'll be on your way to a successful married life.

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i know, i’ll leave.

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I'm also dominating personality.
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Sex

(wish this forum had spoiler tags)

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Re: how to make strong relationship between husband and wife

You married another person…not a puppy.

I don’t know a lot of guys who enjoy one-dish parties :smack: Its a girl thing and you cannot blame him for not wanting to go. He’s not your BFF…he’s a dude.

I’d hate it if I was being forced to follow someone around all the time :frowning:

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Let me tell you something. I am a woman and I absolutely hate going to dawatain, weddings, and get-togethers of any kind. My Dad never went to any social events and my Mom resents him for that because she wanted him to go with her. Understand that some people just aren't comfortable in crowds. If you won't, you will start to resent him and that won't be good for you.

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If you want to understand his nature then ask him questions like if he like to go to these dawats and parties. If he says no, than ask him to comprise a little. Ask him to go once a month or once every other month. But sounds like you want him to follow you around and that might not happen. Like Reha said he is not a puppy...he has a personality of his own and will do what he wants to do.

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Maybe I'm oversimplifying things - but I find the greatest conflict in a relationship (husband-wife, MIL-DIL, parent-child) comes from expectations we place on the other person.

Let's take an example - just because a mother doesn't say "I love you" doesn't mean that she doesn't love her child. A mother shows her love and care in a multitude of other ways. But once we measure the other persons care and affection for us by our standards we set ourselves up to fail. Look for the other persons love and care and affection in how they want to express it and not in how you want to receive it.

I'm not saying that conflicts in relationships do not exist - of course they do. But I've noticed that for a lot of people the conflict is more in their head because the other person didn't meet their expectations of what it means to care about them.

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Agree with u all I'm just saying he should compromise also I don't want him to go around with me just ask me also what I Like what dislike.

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You have to learn to be practical.

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if you show yourself to be a likeable personality who conforms to his wants, it will trigger a reaction to want to please you also as you please him. if you remain stuck in this "my will-his will" debate, you will force him to mirror your attitude.

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I think trust and respect are very important to have a succesful marriage. :)