I’m struggling to make friends 
I got married almost 3 years ago and have moved to a different area. I still keep in touch with my old friends and we meet up occasionally but it’s difficult with distance.
I just haven’t been able to make new friends-where do you meet people?
I have met people through work but it’s an all white workforce and socialising with them is limited as I don’t drink etc.
I have tried to socialise through my inlaws circle of friends but tend to find that it’s only the elders that meet up and the younger generation don’t go to the same events etc.
Sooo where can I meet people and make friends I’m begining to get a bit lonely now
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You’re in UK? If yes, look for your local muslim friendship groups.
Yeah I’m in the UK. Hmmm ok I will try and google and see what comes up.
Any other suggestions?
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Find your people - Meetup
Thank me later
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a/s/l?
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oh shoot that was supposed to be a pm 
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people are waste of time. get a hobby foo!
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Just try and be as open and friendly as possible. If you have a tendency to be a bit closed off with people then make sure that’s not the case. Are you at uni? if so then join a paksoc etc? Do your local mosques run any ladies events etc? if so then that can probably be a good place to start although ive never been to one. My friend volunteers at a local pakistani ladies/kiddies club every so often and she’s made a good amount of friends.
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The younger people that don’t turn up do exist. Follow up om that. If an older aunty has a daughter at home your age maybe visit their house do you can introduced. You could try classes, gym, spas in desi areas. Do something special for eid. I think the important thing is that you put yourself forward rather than wait for someone to come to you. It’s not going to happen if you keep waiting.
My mum was new to her city after marriage and ended up making friends with older women in her neighbourhood and these are the most solid friendships she’s had in the past 30 years so don’t discount the older lot completely.
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Host a party at local Masjid. The people you make friends via Masjid most of the time are friends for life and do not give importance to superficial and also are less likely to be materialistic. It is not universal truth but chances are that you would find some good people to hang around with and that is all you need.
P.S Been there done that.
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LOL here is the updated version:
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This is the blurb…
“You can go after the job you want…and get it! You can take the job you have…and improve it! You can take any situation you’re in…and make it work for you!”
Seriously? Is this really about making friends or manipulating and flattering others to get them do what you want!
Have you read it yourself? I saw these Most Helpful reviews under the link you posted.
THINK TWICE BEFORE BUYING THIS
By Wild Bull Writer - October 5, 2011
Do you like awful jargon? Bad writing? Meaningless “improvements”? Do you really want to buy a book with gobbledygook sentences like “Today’s biggest enemy of lasting influence is the sector of both personal and corporate musing that concerns itself with the art of creating impressions without consulting the science of need ascertainment”?
Frankly, this unfortunate “revision and updating” of the Carnegie book is a big step backward—a step you can avoid making by buying the original book, which is actually very readable. Whereas this “new” version is so full of mind-numbing jargon you’ll want to pull your hair out.
Conclusion: Either this book is a tranparent ploy to make money, regardless of the quality of the work, or the book’s owners employed the wrong people to “revise and update” it. Not sure which it is. But the effort did go awry.
452 of 483 people found this review helpful
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Although I meant it as a joke, @hareem1, if you’ve read the book and don’t like it, why don’t you write a review on that site and counter the notion that it is all people need. Frankly, your modus ope***** of reading the blurb and other people’s reviews to form an opinion about the book says more about you than about the book.
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You can start with getting involved in events at your local mosque.
Masjids are great places to start if you’re looking for people from similar background.
Also, look up professional organizations in your area like YOUR DIL, CAMP, AMHP, AMP, etc. Usually, they have chapters in different cities and have events/fundraisers/charity going on where you can - again - get involved.
Volunteer work
Your local library and park district also has community events going on that will help you meet people in your area.
Look for groups that are built around a mutual interest like Bump Club or helping people that are victims of domestic violence or even a group like Toastmasters.
The sky is the limittttt…the hard part is just getting started.
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The mosque thing is a good idea if you’re quite practising but in the (few) mosques I’ve been to here the women aren’t that friendly if you don’t wear hijab
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Yes both of them. You will find critics of any book. People will take one excerpt and trash the whole book. Does that not happen to our holy books? They are near and dear to you and me but worth burning by others.
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which city are you in ?@Aaliyah1
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Suburbs of Houston. Why do you ask.
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You meant it as a joke so it doesn’t matter. I don’t think I’ll ever read it. The title is very off putting. 