How to kill your mother in law...

How to kill your mother in law…

Please read the story before you say Ahhhh. Saw this on FB and had to share it here. Maybe it’s been shared before. It’s brilliant. Mods - a request please keep this here on the Life forum as I’m sure it’ll be beneficial to others.

"A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time Li-Li found that she couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at all.
Their personalities were very different and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law’s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting.
But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li’s poor husband Di great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law’s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it! Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs.
She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.
Mr. Huang thought for a while and finally said, “Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.”
Li-Li said, “Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do.” Mr. Huang went into the back room and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, “You can’t use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you, when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don’t argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.” Li-Li was so happy.
She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.
After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn’t had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.
The mother-in-law’s attitude toward Li-Li changed and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.
Li-Li’s husband was very happy to see what was happening. One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, “Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She’s changed into such a nice woman and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.”
Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. “Li-Li, there’s nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.”

HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you? There is a wise Chinese saying: “The person who loves others will also be loved in return.”
Allah swt might be trying to work in another person’s life through you."

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Moral of the story: one need to know good cooking skills besides being meethi churi to appease mother-in-law

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if only this was always the case... i personally know many examples where the above statement is not true

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As usual…of course it’s the DIL’s fault if she’s treated like crap by in-laws. :rolleyes:

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perhaps the story does lend itself to that suggestion…but honestly if you don’t focus on fault, you can see that the remedy may work regardless.

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Wish it was this simple in real life!!

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It can't hurt to try to be nice. If it works great. If it doesn't then your situation stays the same, which if not better then isn't bad either.

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Other ways to kill your MIL (courtesy of life1):

Hold your husband's hand in front of her
Organise a party in her absence
Tell the maid off

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Show kindness/respect no matter what to all parents including in-laws.....the reaction is addictive trust me!!!

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The story doesn't suggest it......it pretty much is saying that it was the DIL's fault b/c she wasn't blindly obeying her MIL without questioning anything in a house that supposedly is her home too. I don't disagree with the statement that it MAY work.

I fully agree that being nice to others can go a long way. But I find stories like this ridiculous b/c the blame is always on the DIL. When she shares her own thoughts, her opinions etc.....it's a problem. As soon as she is "being nice" to the MIL (ie. obey the MIL, be a robot and act polite no matter what)......life will be peachy. God forbid the MIL should change herself or any of her habits. It's a one way street where the DIL must make all compromises in order to keep the peace.

And at the end of the day.....stories like this make life seem too simple. There are plenty of women out there who have never been disrespectful towards their in-laws...yet still get treated like crap. Being nice to people no matter what isn't always the best idea when the other party continues to treat you like crap no matter what.

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that's all that I was saying.....it MAY work.
if a problem is big enough for someone to search for a solution then the "possibility" that a remedy MAY work should be enough motivate to give it a shot.

let me first say that which we all don't like but know to be true:
- it is the DIL that has entered into a an existing culture.....she is the one that will end up having to accommodate because everything/one else has been functioning in this manner for a while and see no immediate need to change. (the hubby may make efforts to help with the adjustment process but often even that is not the case)
- it is in the DIL's best interest to "fit in" for the same reasons mentioned in the point above.
- the more the DIL expects things to change to accommodate her, the more the MIL et al will present obstacles thinking why should many change for one.

I totally agree that everyone in a family should be ready and willing to make compromises and changes when a marriage takes place....particularly if there is a joint family system. Unfortunately that is rarely the case so I would suggest that we all prepare for the most common situation and be happy if we end up in the unlikely and rare one.

agreed.....stories like this do make life seem too simple.
but consider this.....what if we took big problems and addressed them with simple solutions......??? what would happen?

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Li-Li is now a GS mod and goes by Lilly. her MIL posts only in religion and science forums.

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Confucius Say. Happiness is seeing your mother-in-law’s face on the back of a milk carton
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How to kill your mother in law...

Hmm and here I thought it was a story about killing and getting away with it...

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Oh I do think most of us blow things out of proportion. Depending on the specific situation and personalities of the parties involved........a simple solution such as "being nice" could get the problem solved......OR it could make it worse b/c the other party takes advantage and thinks they can get away with whatever. There is absolutely no harm in trying simple solutions. However, we must also be prepared to take drastic solutions IF the problem itself is making our life truly miserable when the simple solutions don't work.

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Or the obituary section in the newspaper… :@:

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:chai:

sharam karo larki!!!
you too Reha.

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What :blush:

It was funny :rotfl: