Re: How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?
Re: How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?
yea I can.
When you chicks keep things in secret it gives D-bags chance to thrive.
Remember strange things grow in dark.
well not you PCG 
, you put too much light on things that poor “potential” get burned.
This sounds like a manipulative jerk more than a wimp.
I don’t buy his reason for hiding that he was divorced and has a child but can give him the benefit of the doubt like your friend has. But the fact that he abandoned his baby and disowns her. I cannot overlook that. How does your friend reconcile with that fact?
Seriously, he’s a deadbeat dad. There is fundamentally something wrong with him for abandoning his little innocent baby. His family sounds like a bunch of sociopaths (by definition, it is doing something hurtful with no remorse). Bad idea even associating with liars, deadbeat dads, and sociopaths.
Do stuff with your friend. Get her involved with life, doing social and physical activities such as hiking, Working out at gym, dance classes, yoga classes, volunteering (at soup kitchen, hospital, schools, masjid etc.), going out with friends.
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Im still waiting for an answer to my question..... how is a man wanting to marry a divorcee considered lack of morals?
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is she divorced as well ?
Re: How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?
Update on this thread:
The guy in question recently went back to Pakistan and came back married. I don't know the details (just found out from a mutual friend who is friends with him on facebook). Up until two months ago, this guy was still manipulating my friend that he is going to talk to his parents about her and find a way to make things right.
On the one hand, I'm relieved and happy that she will finally be able to move on. At the same time, I feel like crying because it must be heartbreaking for her to realize all his promises were fake.
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Ridiculous. Ridiculous that this kind of fraud is happening in our "Muslim" and "Pakistani" community.
Re: How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?
Update on this thread: The guy in question recently went back to Pakistan and came back married. I don't know the details (just found out from a mutual friend who is friends with him on facebook). Up until two months ago, this guy was still manipulating my friend that he is going to talk to his parents about her and find a way to make things right.
On the one hand, I'm relieved and happy that she will finally be able to move on. At the same time, I feel like crying because it must be heartbreaking for her to realize all his promises were fake.
After everything he/his family had done as of the time you opened this thread, he still managed to manipulate her up to 2 months ago? Wow.
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Pakistani men have some power, don't they.
Re: How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?
I personally know someone who has gone through this whole phase of crying every single day non-stop and acting crazy.
To make your friend come to her senses you need to calm her down and talk to her,and explain to her that if this guy actually cared and wanted to be with you he would have stood up for you,and if his parents were even half decent they wouldn't have treated you and your family this bad.
Explain to her she wont be getting married to him she will be getting married to his family also,who have already shown their true colours.
Try and find come credible dirt on him,and get some one who she listens too,to talk to her.
He's just pursuing her,he probably hasn't got want he wanted.
The whole process needs time,she wont get over him in over a night,but if she sees the reality of the whole situation it will get some what easy.
Good luck.
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One of my friends went through a bad divorce, she underwent professional therapy and says it worked wonders. She still gets a little tearful when she talks about what she went though, but at least she is functional now.
Maybe your friend just needs some better coping skills.
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Can someone explain to me why there are so many d-bags in our community? Why do we keep hearing story after story of losers like this?
Cos unhappy people complain, happy people are silent and happy being happy :P naturally youll hear about the bad, the bad is newsworthy
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I hope that's the case, because if this is what's the norm out there, that's just sad overall. And when you open the TV and see the regular Joe of Pakistan, I wouldn't be surprised if the number of abusers and frauds is higher than it should be.
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then they say women have the same level of intellligence as men…
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honestly? there's only so much a friend can do, and the end decision will be hers. advise but be prepared for your friend to make stupid naïve emotional decisions. Some people only learn when things go wrong.