Re: How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?
Seriously? I’ve been noticing the comments you have made in some other threads too. Really shows your mentality. Talking to a guy is not haraam and getting parents involved once you feel you’re both right for each other is not wrong in any way. It would have been wrong if she was having actual illicit relations with him in secret, not regretting any of it, and not being bothered by it when his parents didn’t accept her. Those are the kind of the girls that, I agree, deserve whatever comes their way. But this girl isn’t one of them.
She is a really good girl, and that’s part of the problem. Guys like this usually go for girls who are vulnerable … who have never had any previous history so they know they can easily manipulate them into falling for them. When he first started showing interest in her, everyone (including me) encouraged her to talk to him and find out if they have anything in common. There is nothing haraam in doing that. And no one could have seen it coming that he would have a child at such a young age or what kind of person he would turn out to be.