For Muslims, who believe in Allah as their Lord, and Muhammad pbuh as their messenger.
These two hadiths, are All you need to have a happy marriage.
Ofcourse there are other depths you can get into, but these are the two basic hadiths, full of wisdom and prosperity for those who adhere to them…
I bet you, if some married couples just understand what these two hadiths talk about, we would cut down on half the thread topics in this forum.
For Wives
Allah’s Apostle ,PBUH said :” If I were to command a single person to bow in prostration to an other person, I could have commanded a women to bow down ( in obedience and respect , not in worship) to her husband.”
[Bukhari and Muslim]
For Husbands
In another Hadith, it is mentioned, ‘The best amongst you are those who are kindest to their wives.’
and remember…
“The most hateful of all lawful things, in the sight of Allah, is divorce.”
For Muslims, who believe in Allah as their Lord, and Muhammad pbuh as their messenger.
These two hadiths, are All you need to have a happy marriage.
Ofcourse there are other depths you can get into, but these are the two basic hadiths, full of wisdom and prosperity for those who adhere to them...
I bet you, if some married couples just understand what these two hadiths talk about, we would cut down on half the thread topics in this forum.
For Wives
Allah’s Apostle ,PBUH said :” If I were to command a single person to bow in prostration to an other person, I could have commanded a women to bow down ( in obedience and respect , not in worship) to her husband.”
[Bukhari and Muslim]
For Husbands
In another Hadith, it is mentioned, 'The best amongst you are those who are kindest to their wives.'
and remember...
"The most hateful of all lawful things, in the sight of Allah, is divorce."
if only every couple would remember the above 2 things....ppl would be satisfied with their marriages.
I dunno, i mean yeah its very simple..treat him liek a king and he'll treat u like a queen..at the very core that's what it is..mutual love and respect.
But all tooo often, esp in desi families, outsiders play such a huge roll in the marriage, there are parents who will tell thier kids to divorce thier spouse, women who treat their bahus like servants. Its good to have parents involved in your life but i think once ure married,esp when you have kids, ure spouse should be the priority, and parents should not interfere in every little issue
its really sad to see that some ppl treat their wife like
garbage specially in pak:bummer: … if they read and follow this hadith then m sure things will get much better and womans won,t have to suffar from our mistakes cuz they r the 1 who r the victim mostly :o …
hopefully, if people learn before they get married...this will save ALOT of future marriages.
As for those who are suffering what you've mentioned sara, I can only pray that their husbands get some aqal :(
at our masjid....the imam wont allow a couple to get married (if they ask him to marry them) until they get pre-marital counseling (through him )first. This counseling requires taking actual classes for 2 weeks or so. :)
Excellent advice from our habib Nabi (s), also two books which are great:
i reccommed the book Islamic Marriage by Hedyaa Hartford, for those who are married or are hoping to get married excellent excellent book, words cant describe just how good that book is i am not exaggerating, it really changes your whole attitude towards marriage, if you realise that everything is for the sake of Allah (jala jala lahu) and your intention for everything must be for the sake and pleasure of Allah, by doing so you will get reward for your action and more likely to do it with sincerity,
also another book - The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger, another excellent book with great advice, the main one - keep in mind to give give give and you reciprocate the same behaviour, the more you set standards, and expect to be given but not give anything back the more yuo will hurt and not put 100 % in your marriage, its better to give and not just take all the time.
I think there is no man who lives up to the second Hadith more than my husband does. He is remarkably kind to me, and because of that, I feel no hesitation in listening to him. He never raises his voice, gets impatient with me, or acts in a rude or unkind manner, so when he makes a request of me, I know it's for a good reason.
I hope to be as good a wife as he is a husband to me.
But all tooo often, esp in desi families, outsiders play such a huge roll in the marriage, there are parents who will tell thier kids to divorce thier spouse, women who treat their bahus like servants. Its good to have parents involved in your life but i think once ure married,esp when you have kids, ure spouse should be the priority, and parents should not interfere in every little issue
there is a common habit of desi husbands to be more obedient and influenced by their mothers rather than their wives no matter what. typical mummy daddy bacha for you
