How to handle the Haq Mehr situation

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Re: How to handle the Haq Mehr situation

@badabing

As far as Jahaiz goes, I have two sil’s - my family never took a penny from either of them (no cash, no gold, no big hoopla ruksathi, just nikkah with 6 people from my household as guests in each instance). My family actually has double standards when it comes to jahaiz, they don’t take a penny off of the parents of in coming girls yet my sister is getting married next month and is going to get a seven figure sterling jahaiz. Oh the irony!

If you are contributing to it, you cannot complain about it anymore.

@rosedreams

Guys, what is the appropriate haq meher to ask? 1000 dollars? 2000? I know some people give like 1 dollar. But isnt the amount given for security for the wife? So that if any thing happens to her husband she can be financially strong for a short time. (assuming she doesn’t work) I am not sure about haq mehers and i have read in the Quran about it, but not sure how much is the norm or right amount to give/accept.

It depends on the financial capabilities of the husband.

And to be honest…haq mehr is nothing nowadays. Your joint assets are much more than mehr usually and in the US courts you’ll never get it.

Plus, women don’t need it. Set a reasonable amount and get it over with. Its a gift and should be treated as such.