How to handle the Haq Mehr situation

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Re: How to handle the Haq Mehr situation

@badabing

I don’t think anyone has an issue with haq mehr - the issue lies with the OP’s father wanting to show off in front of relatives/friends by having the OP write down an exorbitant haq mehr that the OP will “forgive” after marriage, as well as the OP’s inability to stand up to her parents about what she states quite clearly that she doesn’t agree with yet stays quiet as a mouse as not to be seen as “batameez” or upset her parents view of the world.

As far as Jahaiz goes, I have two sil’s - my family never took a penny from either of them (no cash, no gold, no big hoopla ruksathi, just nikkah with 6 people from my household as guests in each instance). My family actually has double standards when it comes to jahaiz, they don’t take a penny off of the parents of in coming girls yet my sister is getting married next month and is going to get a seven figure sterling jahaiz. Oh the irony!

Nice of ur parents not to ask jahaiz frm ur SILs. I guess theyre giving ur sister all the jahaiz out of love.