i have recntly gone thru a situation which hurt me the most i listen that things last 4 5 months back also its my cuzn whom i helped her lover my mom dad both like her we all done so much on her wedding becoz it is our first getting married she is my mamo’s beti .. she has a habit of laughing at others behind them plus have a habit ke tum kasiey karogi ,tum se nai hoga etc, so prblm is that she i s giving remarks to finace that he is elder than me and all what should i call him and all i said u take name ..he is 3 tp 4 yrs elder than my cuzn not very much .. and my parents chose my finace so i dont think age matters he is 9 yr elder than me i have no issue but she is giving remarks behind me that isko asia mila and all blah blah meray fiance ki buraii and all …and the main thing he just met my fiance on our engament and my fiance meet her and her husbnd very well he go to thm and greet them but my cuzn is so what can i say about her … she really hurt me ..i didnt any anything to her i just told her ke meray faince ko kuch mat khey kio but she dont nt listen …
dont what to do how to handle this without any harsh things becoz she is elder then me i dont want things to get mess up but seriously i dont like if would say about my hubby becoz soon INSHALLAH i will got married
any suggestions?
and yes she all the time make me afraid of wedding ke shadi asii hain wasii hain yeh hoga etc etc
Ignore her. I think that's the best possible remedy in this situation. I've come across a few people like this myself - they seem to be insecure about something, so I just feel sorry for them, smile and move on.
Also, nobody can say what your marriage will be like because it will be what YOU make it to be and not what someone else makes it to be.
OP: She's just jealous, ignore her is the best thing you can do. Keep a distance from her, and if she starts to say anything about ur fiance in front of you just cut her off politely. But since she comments behind your back, just ignore. And cut off the people who tell you her comments.
If she has a "habit of laughing behind others' backs", it's high time someone confronted her with some verbal chitrol. I don't care much for these relations when there's no sincerity on others' part. Mamu ki beti hai tau kya hua, tell her to be happy for you, quit the backbiting and grow the heck up. Talk to her politely and tell her that you find her comments insulting and hurtful. If she doesn't change then just distance yourself from her.
you are supposed to bring some other argument, some extra detail, some other past issues etc etc. There is a way to open threads and conduct yourself in there. this is just not acceptable :nono:
dont have any detail becoz she is best cuzn what else i can tell u she lives near my house and if i say anything harsh she will make more back bitting becoz she has a habit of this she use to do back bitting of my other cuzns in front of me and i remain slient becoz if i say anything she will add more words and will tell to my other cuzn ... she is elder among all cuzn so she thinks she is rite others are fool they cant do anything or others are capable and she always say to my other cuzns ke iski shadi kasiey chaley gi usko kuch nai ata etc etc and i said to her ALLAH karney wala hain sub hojata hain ...
