Re: How to get someone to leave your life?
Another damsel-in-distress story.
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Get a rebound sort of a guy.
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You can start dating a few guys then tell him youre seeing new people.
Hopefully once his wife gets shipped here he'll also back off.
How to get someone to leave your life?
I was in an almost similar situation two months back..But what i did was blocked him..and i didn't read his messages and deleted them..Your decision is correct..Just move on in life and u ll definitely get over it..Just keep yourself busy either with your family or friends..and don't think much about him..It will be hard but will be ok by the time passes..he'll be fine too. Be happy! MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU AND take you out of this situation :) in sha Allah everything will be ok..
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He came over again by surprise today and this time it was when I had an appointment after work so I had to leave my place*. The one mistake I made was that I didn't lock my car door so he sat in the passenger seat. I had to be face to face with him at that point. No he's not a thug or a psycho. He tried to hold my hand and tried to get close. *vomit All I see is a hooked man. When he tried to hold my hand it did kind of bring back the feelings.** I will not call the police, he isn't some criminal for me to do that. Anything except that or involving him being treated like a convict please. Please keep in mind I intensely loved him before the 60 day hetox. Now i'm more practical.
I honestly feel like i'm in some Geo or hum tv drama but unfortunately it's my life.
I really don't have luck with guys so finding another man is difficult since no other guy seems right or compatible that exists near me.
Did you not yell at him to just get out of the car? It sounds like you're being quite passive.. If someone like that tried to sit in my car I'd be swearing and trying to push them out lol
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Get him out of your head. He will be out of your life in no time.
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He doesn't love you - he wants to possess you (the concept of haasil) and you don't love him, you were infatuated with him. Love is kind and understanding - not selfish and destructive.
Know that he's bad for you and keep him out of your life - and yes, call the cops if necessary. If your actions are clear and you're not giving him mixed signals - then his actions are stalking and he needs to know his behaviour is unacceptable. No means no and if he doesn't want a criminal record, he needs to respect and accept your boundaries.
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^^ how did you come to the conclusion that I didn't love him though? From my actions when I was with him made me feel like I was in love with him. Then again I have no clue what the idea of receiving love is about.
I've seen it in the eyes of couples from a distance.
I agree with what you said in your second paragraph. He is bad for me and I know that. Since he rang the doorbell again today, without opening the door i did warn him that I'll contact one of his immediate family members if he comes over again like another wise GS member said. I think I would rather take that route.
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You are so irresistible na!
J/K
Why not get restraining order? :)
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"i even threatened to tell the woman that he is supposed to see as his life partner but he said he isn't worried if i did that. She won't be able to move over to this country for months."
The last sentence shows his lack of character. He is a User.
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Op when he comes to ur door or ur car what does he say exactly k kya chahiyay usay? Whatever crap he says, he is a bheegi billi in front of his family. Tell him yes if he can bring his parents to ur house for rishta that's when u'll talk to him, otherwise u have nothing to say. That should shut him up. And if he talks about majboori, then u say u can't be with a majboor person sorry. I mean really if he can't give anything in return to Phir baat kar kar k kya karna hae usnay? Zindagi bhar baat he kartay rahaingay kya? What a waste of time this stalker of yours, I mean it has no aim. Stalkers usually want a relationship a marriage or to be with the person, whatever. This guy is like oh I can't marry u I will stalk u, it doesn't even make sense.
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Oh and he won't get "hurt" if u call his mom right. It'll be good for him to get someone to sstalk him at home, let him know what it feels like. Jub ammi say roz Chaar baatain sunni paraingi, k kahaan ja rahay ho kab aaogay, Tum Phir us larki k ghar Gaye thay, khudi tang aa jayega. So next time just call his parents. Then when he shows up at ur door call his parents again and tell them Aapka beta Phir yahaan pohonch Gaya hae, let them hear everything he's doing, banging shouting whatever. That should sort him out I hope.
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Dont shower for next 10 days and carry raw fish in your bag.
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You are so irresistible na!
J/K
Why not get restraining order? :)
bcoz she still feels "koi pathar sey na maarey mire diwaney ko"
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"i even threatened to tell the woman that he is supposed to see as his life partner but he said he isn't worried if i did that. She won't be able to move over to this country for months."
The last sentence shows his lack of character. He is a User.
Agree with Southie. This guy wants relationships on his terms with little regard for the feelings and time of others. Sadly, he is blind to his faulty thinking. Even a marriage didn't wake him up. So, if he doesn't back off, don't hesitate to use his immediate family to send him that much needed rude awakening.
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bcoz she still feels "koi pathar sey na maarey mire diwaney ko"
Just shoot him...why waste the pathar? :D
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buy a spine, install it.
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He can marry more than one, then why all this stress? Unless it's just a hook up for him.
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buy a spine, install it.
I've stood up to him and looked him straight in the eyes and told him that I will not continue this especially with someone that will be completely a married man in a couple months. Yeah he's a user since it's so obvious that he's trying to use me until his wife comes over. Queer, you probably live the happy couple, almost perfect husband wife(life partnerhood)and kids family life. You really can't relate to me.
Namaan, yeah i'm sure there are loads of women that love the idea of being a second wife and seeing their husband kissing, loving, and being intimate with another woman.
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perfect life or not - i know if i went and sat in the car of a woman who didnt want it, i'd be in serious trouble. stop being a doormat, do something.