Guys and Gals, I am stuck in a very “interesting” relationship. The girl is nice and crazy about me. She is pretty, has a professional career, financially stable and 5 years older than me, which I don’t mind.
I like the girl/woman however there are few elements I am not comfortable with
She told me she loves me within just two weeks and we only met 4 times.
She wants me to leave all my friends. (most of them are girls)
She already started talking about our marriage and kids.
Few more but cant mention them here or I’ll be banned again
I have decided, I cant carry on with this un-usual relationship. so the question is; how do I let her go without hurting her.
As i see here, instead of u guys giving him a suggestion, you are eeking about the 5 year older girl
ppl did u guys forget our own holy prophet (PBUH)'s wife?
anyway about older wife then my mamo and chacha’s wife are 10 year older then them. and they are really happy…
anyway your question guyfromwest… maybe u don’t deserve her true love.. just tell her tat… You deserve a girl who marries u and leaves u after 2 months to marry another guy.. isn’t it so?
i would have said alot more but like u iam afraid of being banned
guyfromwest, u mentioned she’s 5 yrs older than u but how old r u? Neverthless, she must be a mature and smart woman to have established herself. So where she is, educated, financially stable, yeah of course she wud wanna get married, and raise a family. You want her to wait another year or two for u, only to listen, oh we don’t get along, may be we shud seperate?? People expect “I luv yous” in an arranged marriage but not in a relationship which is 2, 4 weeks old? Boy, u r not ready for a serious relationship. You said she wants u to leave ur galfrnds … put urself in her shoes, wudn’t u want her to leave if she had too many boyfriends and just be a true loving wife to u??
The bottomline is, are you ready for a serious relationship? Are you getting cold feet? Are you gonna make an honest woman out of her? If no, stay the hell out of her life. Go fool around until one day you wake up and realize what you missed Seriously, if there are more things that bother you about her, then you should get out of this relationship. You have been given plenty of suggestions here to be honest and let her know. I liked the suggestion from MyWish
if u really wanted to dump her u would not have posted this here. You feel something for her, so deal with the other stuff and talk to her. Tell her to give you time , if thats what u need.
Imagine if a girl had posted something about a guy who wanted her to abandon all her male friends, told her he loved her after meeting just a few times and wanted to get married. The poor guy would probly get labeled a green card hunting, insecure, possessive, sexist male chauvinist pig.
But since we are talking about a woman, she is made out to be an angel fallen from heaven. Hypocrites.
The fact that u go on a forum and post shows that u have been thinking...which shows you do have her on ur mind a lot...which shows that u do have something for her....but inspite of that I understand ur anxieties...it's goin a bit toofast and yeh like 2-3 weeks and I love u is a tad too quick...so why dun u just keep it simple...tell er u need time to think abt that...in the meantime u can just get to know each other...and if inspite of spending a lot of time with her and still feelin the same way as u are now...then u just gotta break the news to her...it'll get worse if u beat around the bush then.
just tell her exactly how you feel about her....that u do like her but that marriage is a huge decision and you cant be making promises to her unless you really mean it. tell her that you want to be 100% sure with everything for the sake of both of you and so that no one gets hurt.
two weeks is kind of a short period to be falling in love but who knows?
and i understand her asking u to leave all your female friends. if you fell in love with a girl and wished to marry her you would want her to do the same no?
all she needs is a sense of security i feel (wanting to hear and 'i luv u 2, wanting u not to mingle with other girls, wanting to marry u)....
i am sure you can try to make her feel secure through spending more time with her and showing her how much you like her. u dont have to necessarily MARRY her....
discuss the girl-friends issue like RIGHT NOW. because if u do end up marrying her later...its going to be a constant issue between u two.
If you aren't ready for a relationship or marriage, like she is, then just tell her that you have different priorities in life at the moment. Don't prolong it by stringing her along, especially if she's telling you that she already loves you.
Any girl who asks you to get rid of your friends will eventually ask you to get rid of your family.
You have accomplished the fk part, and now proceed with the chuck part, dude. Put a closure on this thing, like, NOW!!
Dump the girl on a post-it-note.
Reminder: Double-standard: when a girl asks you to leave your friends, she is insecure, loves you too much
when a guy asks you to do the same, he is a manipulative controlling a**hole.
I believe that you are a gentlemen for not letting it drag too long. In 2 weeks time and 4 meetings, you don't even start loving your dog. Obviously, she won't be able to understand your personality in 2 weeks time. If she does not know your good and bad sides, how can she love you. I think she is infatuiated with you and nothing more. If you don't feel comfortable and don't want to continue, cut it now, ruthlessly.
Seriously, if there are more things that bother you about her, then you should get out of this relationship. You have been given plenty of suggestions here to be honest and let her know. I liked the suggestion from MyWish 