It is a confusion amongst most girls. For me like all others it is a problem as to how would i know who out of a specific lot is the guy meant for me, who i should get married, who would be the best hubby. I mean it is the biggest decision of your life so how do u know and how do u decide who u shud get married to? Esp for girls who are already married can u tell ur stories and tell how you girls decided that YES he is the man! 
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You are going to come across alot of guys and it will take time to find the one whom you will click with. You need to take in alot of things into consideration..for example...physical appearence & attraction, education and background, family, his values, is he religious or not, his family getting along with yours etc etc...
Ofcourse, you cant decide all this on the first meeting and it wil take time to establish these things. For me, i came across my huisband at the end of March. I was communicating with him through emails. I found alot about him and our personalities suited alot AH. From there on, i asked my parents to have a read and they were happy. It took couple of weeks for him to bring his family over and everything went well on the first meeting. Usually, you would give some time and think things over after the first meeting but his dad invited us for dinner the following week. At that point, I thought that this is going ahead - actually i knew deep in my heart from the emails that inshallah it will go ahead as i really liked him and he did so as well. Enggaement date was being discussed and we got engaged 2 weeks later. Wedding took place 3 months later and here we are nearly 3yrs mashallah and still in the honeymoon period...:p
I realised that inshallah it will go ahead from the way he spoke, his behaviour, his respectful behaviour towards my family and how he got along with my family and AH everyone loved him. Ofcourse, we got along as well - hehe.. It takes time and its a torture to wait for the right person but pray and inshallah you will find him soon inshallah...
Best of Luck!
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^^ you met ur hubby on net?
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Happy thats how it goes for the girl. and its "documented" on gupshup.
First half of their life they look for Mr.Right , find him and get married.
Next half they search for "Soul mate", what happens when they find him, that i have no idea about.
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You have to be mature enough to know what it is that you want from your life - what kind of life do you want to have as far as how many kids, how to raise them, should mom be home or go to work, where to live, what requirements of life each partner has. These things should be discussed and known before marriage IMHO. Otherwise, its as much a gamble as going to las vegas with your life savings.
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hmmmm do man not say say every thing right before marriage. But go back to their normal way. in few years.
Just curios. Are the words good for life time?? Do we not start acting upon our instincts ?
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^^ you met ur hubby on net?
Yeah so...?
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there’s got to be something special in a person 
to marry him
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I think its person who is willing to do special things for you.
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^ yeah :)
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were you nervous when you first met him Sunset_Eyes?
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^ what does being nervous could mean here
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I guess it's a matter of the heart. But then it transitions into a matter of not just the heart but also the mind and the brain. I guess when your fear diminishes and your faith takes over you're on the right track.
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Yea, He has to be from GS 
Anyways on more serious note … He still has to be from GS 
On extremely serious note … There is no Mr. Right. If there is than you’ll know it after 10 years in marriage when real pressures will come. So good luck :halo:
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NaMann, not true, at least in my case. 
We’ve been married for 12 years almost…and never have I regretted the decision. He was my Mr. Right, has been, and will be forever, Insha’Allah. Pressures come and go, but we stick together together and deal with life.
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^^ You still being happy with him is prove of it that he was actually Mr. Right for u and that was my point. Thanks for reenforcement of it.
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You have to be mature enough to know what it is that you want from your life - what kind of life do you want to have as far as how many kids, how to raise them, should mom be home or go to work, where to live, what requirements of life each partner has. These things should be discussed and known before marriage IMHO. Otherwise, its as much a gamble as going to las vegas with your life savings.
Mama...somethings you just cant say for sure before marriage because your views may change with certain experiences.
How can one say for sure how many kids they want when they have never experienced having/raising children? A woman may think she wants to be a career woman but after seeing and holding her baby in her arms for the first time decides home is the best place for her to be. What if before marriage the couple wasnt too religious but after marriage one becomes more religious afterwards and wants to raise their children to be that way as well?
I am sure you get my point.
going back to the main topic...
I always thought that it would be a matter of the heart and mind. You would just know if he was the one.
The one thing i typically do is recite Salat-ul Istikara when I want to make sure I am making the right decision about something.
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Yeah so...?
i was just curious. That's all. Im sorry if you didnt like me asking that.
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We had been communicating for couple of weeks via emails and found out our personalities suited alot and we liked the same type of things etc. There was already a physical attraction as i had seen his pic and vice versa. I was nervous as i hadnt spoken to him over the phone. I was so nervous like a pagli that when they were talking to my parents, i hadnt even gone into the room they were in until his mum called me in and asked me to join them - OH BOY i was nervous. I jst sat there and smiled and was looking down all the time. Me and hubz didnt have a chance to talk at all - understandable as there was all the family around. Even after that, we communicated via emails until 2 months later…he politely asked me if he can ring after such a long time..
Niksik, i know what you mean. Thats exactly how i feel about my hubby AH. I am always there for him and his is there for me too AH. I cant live without him and when i am away for a weekend at my parents, i cant cope without him. He is my world - my life. I just feel sad sometimes that i wish i had met him earlier as time is passing so quick and i am not making the most of our time together as there is always something to do or other.
Its ok Frozenfire - i only asked as some people have their judgements to pass when you tell them you met on the internet.
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aww that's nice..I asked because I have someone that I talk to online..I've known him for a very long time now and I'm gonna see him soon..for the first time and I'm pretty nervous..I was wondering if thats normal