Anyone please who have experienced on your son who seems to show signs of being gay? How do you deal with it? My son is just 6 years old but he is showing signs that he wanted to be a girl. Like when he pee, he pee like a girl. I asked him why did he do it. He just said, he just like to do it.
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My boys sat to pee for quite some time. They just found it easier for some reason. Hubby does this occasionally too. That doesnt mean that they're homosexual or want to be a girl!
My middle son is abit of a mother hen and always wanted a baby sister. Since we're done in that department, I gave him the baby doll that was mine when I was young. He took care of her, fed her etc for a few weeks and then lost interest in the whole thing. These days, he's into typical boy stuff. But never did I think and never did he give the impression that he wants to be a girl.
Dont over-analyze, let him be what he is, love and accept him no matter what.
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That is not an indication that he is homosexual (attracted to men) or transgendered (feeling he is really a girl) -- please note that these are not the same thing.
Either way, as M03 said, his behavior isn't indicative of either.
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In Islam, males are supposed to sit down to pee.
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^ That.
He's going to kill me for saying this, but when my husband was a young kid, he used to dress up in his mothers clothes, heels, makeup, jewellery etc.....and he didn't turn out gay, so i do't really think that your son's behaviour is an indication into the fact that he is gay. Kids are kids...let them be...don't think too much into it.
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^I've heard in a Radio Show that majority of homosexual males became gays or crossdressers coz their parents used to stop them from playing with girly toys or dressing up as a girl. So if my 4 years old wants to play with my jewellery, I let him.
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and has he been seeing u pee sitting down? children imitate their parents.. since a child is cooped up with its mommy from birth till they start going to kindergarden, mosf ot the influence they get from there.
they act like their moms and wanna dress up like their moms.. ure child has just been keeping an eye on how u do things etc... and is now acting out the same.
no worries. maybe get daddy involved a bit more with his son's upbringing. it has to be balanced.
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khawateen, you're absolutely right! Man, afterwhat I went thru potty training my boys, man I could care less if they stood on their heads to pee if they got it into the potty!!!
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^ lol mama
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Most men I know sit down to pee when they get up in the middle of the night or early monring - saves having to aim well when they're not quite awake. After my son consistently peed on the seat, I said if he wasn't going to lift the seat, he could sit down or go outside. We live in the countryside completely surrounded by forest - so it is not like I was offering the option of exposing himself to the neighbours!
Anyway, don't worry about it at all. He'll be fine. And if he is gay, you can't change that anyway, but at least, you won't have urine all over the toilet!
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im sorry but thats just wrong.. go pee outside?
thats just.. so so very wrong.
i think u have to show them how to do things like a human rather than an animal. thats what i think bout those men in pakistan that u see standing in a corner peeing away. jeez.
sorry but i just found it really weird parenting what you just said.
and if ure muslim, ure meanto be teaaching ure son to sit down and pee anyways.. saves u time and energy trying to show him how to aim for the hole :)
Like I said, we live in a rural area (of USA). And if you lived in the countryside, you would know that men and boys are immensely happy to pee outdoors. It's a back to nature thing.
Moreover, he had another option: lift the seat and pee in the toilet. The point, which he did learn, was a matter of sanitation (and he was taught to choose a different place each time to pee outdoors so he doesn't turn one spot of the great outdoors into a toilet.)
I think Allah has bigger things to worry about than whether a man pees standing up or sitting down.
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Its required in Islam to sit when peeing.
Islam makes everything clear from eating, talking, behaving. Don't say Allah has other things to worry about.
But anyway don't change your son's good habits. Really, do your reasearch please.
It has to do with cleanliess more than anything. I got this from another site.. read it..
Peeing while standing.. chances are you'll drop few drops here and there..
It has to do with CLEANLINESS and exposing 'AWRAH (which for a man is considered anything from the belly-button down to the knees)
Urine is impure..it is dirty..it nullifies ablution..and even if a drop of it gets on our clothes..we need to change them..or wash them..otherwise we cannot pray in them..or perform acts of worship such as read Qura'an..also..exposing the 'awrah is considered a sin in Islam..and the way some urinate exposes their 'awrah...I do not need to go into much detail..but I am sure you know what I mean..
There's a hadith which I do not remember word for word but..Rasulullah passed by two graves once and he mentioned how the two men in these graves were being punished because one was a backbiter and the other did not clean or try to keep urine off him and urinated in a manner which exposed his 'awrah..
So you see the matter is grave..as it will cause punishment for a Muslim..mind you even though this specifies a "man"..it does apply for women as well..so this sort of goes out for everybody..we need to conceal ourselves from urine so we do not get dirty or expose ourselves..hopefully one of the brothers and sister not in a hurry as I am can explain better..and provide you with the exact wording of the hadith..I know on narration of it is in Sahih Bukhari..<<<
If you see other behavior than this, you can talk about that.. but this.. errr
My brother used to wear my mom's sandles when he was young.. He is tough as rock now!
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Must everything turn into a bludgeon for religion on Gupshup?
Anyone please who have experienced on your son who seems to show signs of being gay? How do you deal with it? My son is just 6 years old but he is showing signs that he wanted to be a girl. Like when he pee, he pee like a girl. I asked him why did he do it. He just said, he just like to do it.
He is too young and kids do these things.Even they like to play dolls sometimes,they want to wear make-up but its part of childhood by the age 8 or 9 they will realize and leave those things.
I see...good to hear all your feedbacks. it somehow opened my mind. I have this fear feeling that if this will happen I will feel sorry for my son.
I am really getting paranoid now with the behavior of my son. Just recently, he plays an online game where there is a barbie doll where he will put some make up and dresses. Also, there was an incident where he got some tissues and wipe his face the same way I do my face cleansing. The part which I am really sad and hurt is that he was already bullied with that personality.
Just tell your husband to spend more time with him and if you can do some boys like activities with him like fighting video games, put him in karate or baseball somethings that boys do.
Can I ask you a question that how old is your boy? My friend's son had a habit of cooking, they bought him kitchen.It was normal now he has left it and my son used to like make-up always messing up my lipsticks. May be your son is copying you too much just tell your husband to spend more time with him.
The part which I am really sad and hurt is that he was already bullied with that personality.
What do you mean?
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hwiser, young kids mimic the things and people that are most familiar to them. I'd bet that your boy is an only child and spends alot of time with you? Of course he's going to try to be a grown-up like you are and do the things that you do! Does he go to school? Maybe arrange some playdates for him. Arrange to have another boy from his class over for a couple of hours at least once or twice week and see how they play together.