Re: How to deal
yup... tahts all u have to do.. get some men involved.. get him play dates like mama said.. an only child spending way too much time with mommy.. i think thats teh only issue here.
my son doesnt wear a topi when praying.. he wants a dupatta... he doesnt play with hsi man toys but wants to play with bartan.. why? cuz he spends most of his waking hours with his gramma and mom. sure my son is much younger than ures .. only a yr old.. but ive already got his dad on his case and they do some macho stuff and i distance myself from them. im not at all worried bout my son cuz its all a part of development..
dont worry ok :)
What do you mean?
he is bullied of being gay...
Just tell your husband to spend more time with him and if you can do some boys like activities with him like fighting video games, put him in karate or baseball somethings that boys do.
Can I ask you a question that how old is your boy? My friend's son had a habit of cooking, they bought him kitchen.It was normal now he has left it and my son used to like make-up always messing up my lipsticks. May be your son is copying you too much just tell your husband to spend more time with him.
My son is just 6 years old. Yeah, my husband has little bonding time with my son.
he is bullied of being gay...
By whom? Family members? That is something that absolutely needs to be stopped!!!
by his playmates and classmates. I cannot do anything from stopping them since they are also kids. So what I did was not to allow him to mingle with other kids though it is not good as this will create something from his personality.
Re: How to deal
Well have you tried talking to his teachers? Are you in Pakistan?
No, I haven't talked to his teacher. Anyways , just a thought, I guess I have to stop this worries it doesn't help me at all, instead it just hurts me.
Re: How to deal
hwiwser, its part of the mom's job description to worry! We cant help it yeah? I'd try to re-focus all the worry to more constructive thinking though....
It would be a wonderful thing for you to invite a classmate over to your house. You could even ask his teacher to recommend which child to invite. When there is just the two of them, there wont be any bullying or making fun of each other, you can observe and direct their play. The more often you do this, the more comfortable your son will become with his peers and how they play.
My middle son was a very gentle quiet guy in pre-k and kindergarten, enjoyed playing with girls more than boys and engaged in what most consider to be girly activities. He was always more like the big brother and was always so helpful to me and his brothers. But as he became more accustomed to boys his own age and ability, as he had more playdates with them and outside activities away from mom and brothers, he outgrew this. He's now a bicycle-maniac, Tae-kwon-do fiend and a great swimmer. His friends are all boys and he plays ball and "war" at recess. A typical boy boy. This didnt happen overnite, it took time. But it really just came down to his limited exposure.
I bet if you did some of this with your son, your worries will begin to fade.