Re: How to deal with your own family?
Then use reverse psychology may be that might work:
***The answer to this is simpler than you might think. It all comes back to a sense of control. The effectiveness of reverse psychology is based on the reactance theory. This theory states that when people feel they are losing their sense of self control they will take it back by doing what they were told they couldn’t or shouldn’t do. This is easy to see in examples where a parent will tell a child they aren’t able to clean up their room and because the child wants to prove their parent wrong, they will in fact clean up their room. Parent-child examples of reverse psychology tend to be the most common and there is also a reason behind that. Since reverse psychology relies on a person needing to be in control, there are certain types of people that will be more easily swayed by it. Teenagers, Type A personalities, narcissists and psychopaths tend to be ideal because they all want to be in control.
Another driving factor that allows reverse psychology to be so successful is that the person still feels like they are doing something out of their own free will, provided that the way the statements are phrased isn’t too obvious. This tactic works best when using reverse psychology on people that are more resistant to it. In a situation like this, you would tell someone that you can’t make them do anything they don’t want to, that they have the free will to do whatever they choose. If you tell them that while arguing in favor of what you don’t want them to do, then they are much more likely to do whatever it was you wanted them to do in the first place.
The psychology behind reverse psychology is fairly simple. The key is to know who it will actually work on when you use it. If you tell the wrong person to do whatever they want, they could end up doing just that instead of what you really want them to do. Of course, it is also obvious to note that reverse psychology should not be used to influence people to do bad or illegal things, but then again I guess you can do whatever you want.
When your Parents insist you do something… just say Yes I will Insha Allah!
and later when they ask why it did not happen…it was not the will of Allah!
Good Luck!