I really want to thank each and everyone of you. I am glad to put it up here and by shairing it with you guys I am liitle calm and little nervous again. Calm cuz it shouldn’t matter what they say after seeing me cuz it will be surely their loss not mine. Nervous and scared because what if they do continue and then what??? How do I investigate about them as an individual cuz I dont have a sister or brother who could do that. Our family is not so libral, so I don’t know what to do. And my dad will not be able to find everything on his own i believe. And if I do get to meet him, what kind of questions do I ask him to find out he really is not lying about his past and he really is sincere now???
I am so lost, I really don’t have much say into this now unless my parents really find out something bad which is Big.
Please dont give me an advise that you live in US so it is easy for you, use your rights and let your parents not force you into this marraige without you being satisfied cuz that will never happen, I am telling you that we are still a typical Pakistani Family.
So in your replies pls dont pass any coments on my family cuz I love my parents regardles and I am sure they will try their best to find everything about him…The only thing is that what if he is lying and behaving good, but is not good… you know how people put a mask on before getting married and then their mask comes off once you are in a relationship???
Please Only tell me what to do smartly and secretly to find out about him, and when I get a chance to talk to him what kind of questions should I ask to make sure he is not lying. The biggest Problem is that I belive in what people say and I never doubt them unless I find something that I have seen or heard it my self.
It surely looks like a complicated case to me lol 
but I am sure you with so many sisters around me I will get a true and possitive advice and will be good. and also Allah is with me cuz mostly I have left in on Allah subhanawatala, May whatever is good and best for both of us happen Ameen.
I am greatly thankful to all of you. Thanks a bunch 
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Note: we both (the guy and I are not in the same states and I have no family/friends in the state he lives in)
P.s. Please no coments on my parents being so triditional pakistani parents…they are the bestest parents and will never do something bad for me.